477: Why We Change Positions in the Cycle

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.5 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 31 January 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

"Am I a pursuer or a withdrawer? I want to connect emotionally but I avoid sexual intimacy. Why does this happen?" In today's episode, our hosts address the reasons partners may switch roles in the emotional and sexual cycles. Join in as Laurie and George address why you show up as the pursuer in the emotional cycle and the withdrawer in the sexual cycle and vice versa. They detail the three attachment styles, why they matter and how they show up in the respective cycles. Partners may be confused at their flip-flopping in the cycle and our hosts remind us to get curious with ourselves and avoid judgement and criticism. Ask yourself, why might this behavior make sense, what did my blueprint for connection look like, how did I look for connection and feel safe? Laurie soothes the audience as she reminds these patterns are healable and flexibility to have more choices is achievable. Have a question you want our experts to answer in an episode? Call in to the Foreplay Voicemail and leave us a message! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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