470: Why Your Child’s Wiring Matters

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs

Christianity, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Kids & Family, Christian Parent, Religion & Spirituality, Faith, Motherhood

4.9 • 936 Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

What if understanding your child’s temperament could transform the way you parent? Today Karen and Emily sit down with author and temperament expert Kathleen Edelman to talk about wiring, communication, and the power of speaking life into our kids. Kathleen shares tips for how to spot your child’s core temperament, explains why it’s so important to know your own, and reminds us that God intentionally chose each of us to be the mother of our unique child.

Episode Recap:

4:05 - Kathleen Edelman joins us in the studio today to talk temperaments

6:15 - God chose YOU, with your unique temperament, to be the mother of your unique children. It was not an accident.

8:00 - Where did this idea of the 4 temperaments come from?

10:50 - You can watch the body language of your child and pay attention to their words to discern their temperament

14:00 - Temperaments are innate, personality evolves

18:44 - You have to understand how God uniquely wired you to be able to speak your child’s language well

22:00 - What are common mistakes parents make with each temperament and how can they adjust their approach?

31:53 - How can parents manage being the opposite temperament from their spouse?

36:40 - Kathleen and Karen share stories of how this knowledge can transform relationships

44:27 - Children are pure in their wiring before the world starts reprimanding them

Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:29 (ESV)
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Questions for Discussion:

Do you know your temperament color? If so, how has that shaped your parenting style?
Has learning about your child’s temperament changed the way you respond to their emotions or behavior?
Are there any common communication mistakes you’re making with your child’s specific wiring?
How can you speak more intentionally to build your child up according to their God-given design?

Resources:

Enter our giveaway: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms
Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Kathleen’s website: https://isaidyouheard.com/
Follow Kathleen on IG: @kathleenedelman
BOAW Moms Temperament Colors Quiz: boaw.mom/quiz
The temperament book that started it all for Karen: Personality Plus
Karen’s book with a chapter on temperaments: Survival Guide to Motherhood
I Said, You Heard resources on FB: https://www.facebook.com/isaidyouheard
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

Transcript

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0:00.0	Children are the purest in their wiring until the world starts telling them different.
0:05.6	I mean, you were the purest yellow till people started telling you, you're too loud, you're too wiggly, be quiet, right?
0:14.2	Or the reds, you're too bossy.
0:16.5	Somebody else needs to be in charge.
0:18.3	Get moving.
0:19.7	You're lazy, right?
0:21.3	You're shy.
0:22.7	Step up.
0:23.5	Why aren't you part of the group?
0:25.3	I mean, we really have to understand the power of Ephesians 429, which you know is my verse.
0:33.3	Do not let any unwholesome words come out of your mouth.
0:36.8	Just that first statement. Yeah. An unwholesome words come out of your mouth. Just that first statement.
0:38.4	Yeah.
0:38.6	An unwholesome means anything that's not helpful or not healthy, and it's let.
0:43.9	So it's our choice.
0:45.1	That's right.
0:45.6	Every word you use is a word you choose.
0:48.5	Choose wisely.
0:50.5	Welcome to Wire Talk, where we encourage and equip moms by answering practical questions about motherhood.
0:56.4	We want to help instill God's truth in your heart so you can experience more joy and peace on your journey of motherhood.
1:02.9	Are you ready for some truth?
1:04.3	Let's dive in.
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