47 - When Parents Disagree

Gender: A Wider Lens

Sasha Ayad and Stella O'Malley

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Mental Health

4.6 • 961 Ratings

🗓️ 29 October 2021

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

When parents are trying to help their teenager through a difficult time, ideally they work together as a team to strategize, plan, and collaborate. But for many families facing important parenting decisions around their child’s gender struggle, disagreement and conflict can arise. Sasha and Stella discuss a range of family dynamics from low-level disagreements to all out custody battles. What happens when one parent wants to intervene and the other wants to “go with the flow?” They also offer some reflections on what underlying issues might have predated the child’s gender distress and suggest strategies for parents to think big-picture and face the difficulties in their relationships.

Q&A Clips: Therapists are not Parental Substitutes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a88t_LaxKs0

The Time In Between: A Memoir of Hunger and Hope

https://www.amazon.com/Time-Between-Memoir-Hunger-Hope/dp/1848318308

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0:00.0	You're listening to gender, a wider lens.
0:04.0	I'm Stella O'Malley, a psychotherapist in Ireland.
0:06.5	And I'm Sasha Ayad, an adolescent therapist in the United States.
0:10.6	Since 2016, my practice has been exclusively dedicated to gender questioning teens
0:16.1	and families impacted by gender dysphoria. I also work with gender questioning
0:20.7	teenagers and I facilitated support meetings for families and
0:24.2	individuals who have been impacted by gender issues. We're curious about the
0:28.1	concept of gender and how it's unfolding in the wider culture. Join us as we look at gender through a wider lens.
0:35.0	Hi Stella.
0:38.0	Hi Sata, how's life in America?
0:41.0	Life as well.
0:42.0	The weather is getting beautiful here in America. Life as well. The weather is getting beautiful here in Arizona.
0:44.8	How about there in Ireland?
0:47.0	It's getting wintery.
0:48.4	It's getting autumnal.
0:50.8	It's kind of a beautiful season but feeling like we're starting to light the fires and stuff.
0:56.4	Very different from Arizona, I'd imagine it.
0:58.8	Well, you know, the desert gets, the temperature ranges are pretty big, so during the day when it's warm it could be in the
1:05.6	80s but at night it does get down to the 50s or so so we might we might sit outside by the
1:11.3	fire one of these days.
1:14.0	So today's episode is going to discuss what happens when a family has a gender dysphoric teenager or child and the parents don't agree on how to
1:27.2	handle it. Do you see this a lot? I do see this a lot and I see this really really impacting families in it in such a terrible harrowing way.
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