47 - Abandonment Trauma w/ Susan Anderson
Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
4.9 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 2 February 2022
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Abandonment trauma specialist, Susan Anderson, joins us today. She discusses the 5 stages of abandonment, how to recover from abandonment trauma, and her own experience with abandonment stemming from her childhood. Andrea also shares a new chapter of "The Tale of 2 Brian's".
Susan Anderson is a a private practice psychotherapist in New York and the author of several books including The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, a self-help book about the pain of relationship breakups. Anderson developed her ideas after her husband of eighteen years left her for another woman. In her book, Anderson contends that the grief of being spurned in a romantic relationship can create a trauma powerful enough "to implant an emotional drain deep within the self that if left unresolved, leeches self-esteem and creates self sabotage".
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| 0:00.0 | A family ship will never sink until it's abandoned by its crew. |
| 0:06.0 | My name is Andrea and this is adult child. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean. |
| 0:14.0 | Yeah, yeah, what you're holding on the way. |
| 0:18.0 | What you're holding on to, but just let it all go. |
| 0:22.0 | What's making you slow now? |
| 0:25.0 | I'm just let it all go. |
| 0:27.0 | Welcome back to adult child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. |
| 0:34.7 | For any new listeners, I am Andrea and I am a recovering shit show and there is a high probability that you are too so you're in the |
| 0:48.5 | right place. Today we are diving deep or rather diving deeper into one of everyone's favorite topics, |
| 0:57.7 | one topic that we all have such intimate experience with, abandonment, being abandoned, the fear of abandonment, abandonment |
| 1:06.4 | recovery, and today I am joined by someone who I have deemed to be the Queen of Abandonment Recovery, Susan Anderson. |
| 1:18.7 | She is a clinical psychologist and she is an author and I actually read a quote from one of her books in a few |
| 1:25.2 | episodes back it was the most recent episode with Joe Ryan. She has lots of books |
| 1:30.4 | but my absolute fave is her book, The Abandonment Recovery Workbook. |
| 1:36.2 | I have so much shit underlined in that book. You need to go and get that book right now. So we talk about all sorts of shit including |
| 1:47.0 | her five stages of abandonment, acronym to Swirl, which she outlines in that |
| 1:52.4 | recovery, the abandonment recovery workbook. |
| 1:55.2 | We talk about what abandonment trauma recovery looks like, and we talk about her emotional bottom, |
| 2:02.0 | her abandonment trauma bottom aha moment when her husband |
| 2:08.0 | of 19 years abruptly left her which is almost as traumatic as when my boyfriend of less than a month left me. |
| 2:18.8 | So this conversation really, really fed my soul and I am hoping that you will have the same experience. |
| 2:29.0 | I had something else that happened that really fed my soul too. Something profound happened, |
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