In this episode, Javier Amor joins Eric from New York City! Javier is a real-estate broker and is also an Alumni Community member of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups. Today, Javier shares his journey through chronic pain, managing Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and self-advocacy. You'll also hear how a curious mindset and the power of questions changed Javier's life, and also how asking better questions led to saving his father's life. Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:55] Javier shares why he wanted to learn the skill of asking better questions [00:05:29] "It starts with questioning myself." [00:05:51] "How can I communicate to the doctors to make them think without being confrontational?" [00:10:56] The power of the pause, and "Is this going to be constructive, or is it going to 'defeat'?" [00:11:28] Using cues and the "point of performance" to act on new knowledge [00:17:52] Javier talks about managing chronic pain [00:19:08] Javier shares how he prepared himself to see his doctor with what he learned through ArC and the books he's read [00:22:09] Instead of asking x, ask y instead. [00:22:50] Javier speaks about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome [00:25:26] An example of asking curiously vs. telling [00:27:34] "This is my mission." [00:31:28] The importance of asking & advocacy [00:33:26] "I do get stuck, but I don't stay stuck." [00:34:36] "To change self-concept as an adult… takes time." [00:36:43] Eric & Javier share some final thoughts & words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work by Marilee G. Adams Instagram: Mrs. Dorender Gray (@dor_the_grayt) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens