462: Stop Lying to Yourself! Kevin Boehm on Why Life Happens For Us, Not To Us, Destroying the Self-Help Blueprint, When Fear Looks Like Wisdom, and Why Food Is a Peacemaker
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Christopher Cook
4.9 • 528 Ratings
🗓️ 29 October 2025
⏱️ 65 minutes
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This week on Win Today, esteemed restaurateur Kevin Boehm joins me to name the subtle drift from hope to heaviness: how fear hides under the guise of practicality, how the self‑help blueprint promises control but delivers unease, and why your plate of food may be less incidental than you think—it could be a peacemaker for your soul. We dismantle the lie that you must always surge forward; sometimes the bravest step is backward. We expose what happens when you stop lying to yourself and start living honestly. If you've ever felt stuck in performance, disguised your fear as "logic," or missed the meaning beneath the menu, this conversation will unsettle and re‑anchor you.
Guest Bio
Kevin Boehm is a restaurateur, author, and speaker whose work encompasses hospitality, culture, and the gospel of presence. As co‑founder of BOKA Restaurant Group and author of The Bottomless Cup, he has navigated the collision of excellence, exhaustion, fear, and hope, discovering that what feeds the body often reveals what starves the soul. Kevin's voice challenges the self‑help aesthetic and invites you into the broader story where life is for you, not to you.
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| 0:00.0 | The Art of Leadership Network. |
| 0:03.0 | Being a victim will give you some dopamine and some payment in the very short term, |
| 0:09.0 | because people will look at it and say, |
| 0:11.0 | oh, you poor thing, let me help you. |
| 0:15.0 | But that status wears off. |
| 0:27.0 | Helping you design your roadmap to wholeness from the inside out. |
| 0:29.4 | This is Win Today. |
| 0:33.7 | And now, here's your host, Christopher Cook. |
| 0:36.7 | Hey, you guys, welcome to the podcast. |
| 0:39.5 | Thanks so much for joining me this week. You know, most of us assume life happens to us, things like unexpected events, breakdowns, wounds, loss, betrayal, whatever. |
| 0:47.2 | But what if it's happening for you, and I'm not meaning to dismiss any loss, any adversity |
| 0:52.6 | that hits us? I'm saying we can change the narrative. Well, |
| 0:55.9 | this week, esteemed restaurateur, Kevin Bame joins me to question the very narrative that keeps you |
| 1:01.2 | small. The fear masquerading is practicality that drafts your story, the self-help blueprint whispering, |
| 1:07.3 | you're enough and you're in control when you're really not. |
| 1:15.0 | The hidden lies you tell yourself to maintain the illusion of competence and so much more, |
| 1:18.5 | all of it is baked in this victim identity narrative. |
| 1:23.2 | We talk about taking steps backward so you can truly move forward. |
| 1:29.1 | And about how food, yes, the meals you eat every day can serve your soul's need for peace instead of only your body's need for fuel. So listen, if you've been running on autopilot |
| 1:34.4 | using practicality as protection and performance as identity, this conversation is not just timely, |
| 1:41.0 | my friend, it's essential. My conversation with Kevin Bame is coming up in just a |
| 1:45.3 | moment. But first, when we talk about wholeness on Wynn today, we don't just mean spiritual |
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