The Japanese have this great word, Fudukasai, which we would translate it as old-fashioned.

What it literally translates to is it stinks like old and and I do think that there's a certain amount of all this taking it slow discourse and I think the reason why it leaves a bad taste in some people's mouths is that it can feel like it's this old-fashioned thing that it doesn't really speak to modern dating or feminism.

I think this is something that has often been used like a cudgel on women in particular, you know,

punishing women if we perceive that they have moved too fast or slut-shaming women if we perceive

that they have moved too fast. And so, yeah, I think that that may be a reaction that you can get

from people also if you're wanting to like really take it slow spread out your dates that

some people may say that you stink like old.

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