459: When Dinner Prep Turns Into Drinking [Listener Q&A]
Take a Break from Drinking
Rachel Hart
4.9 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 10 March 2026
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever feel like cooking dinner just isn't the same without a drink in your hand?
You love the ritual of preparing food for your family, but somehow the experience feels flat unless there's wine involved. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone.
In this Listener Q&A episode, you'll hear a question from Katie about why dinner prep so often turns into drinking. Discover how the Upgrade archetype works and why it can make alcohol feel like it enhances already meaningful moments, why wanting and liking are not the same thing, and what you can do to enjoy cooking without needing a drink to make the moment feel special.
Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/
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| 0:00.0 | You love cooking, you love feeding your family, and yet somehow it doesn't feel complete without a drink in your hand. |
| 0:06.8 | The experience feels flat without it. This is episode 459, and I'm breaking down why that happens, |
| 0:13.6 | how the upgrade archetype can hijack your attention, and what to do if you want to enjoy cooking |
| 0:18.7 | without needing a drink to make it better. |
| 0:22.2 | Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit |
| 0:27.5 | from the inside out. We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink and why it can |
| 0:33.7 | be hard to resist temptation. No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take |
| 0:39.9 | control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking. Now, here's your host, Rachel Hart. |
| 0:50.8 | Hey, everybody. So I got a question recently from a listener that I think is going to feel |
| 0:55.5 | incredibly familiar to a lot of you out there. Here's what Katie wrote. I love to cook. And when I |
| 1:01.3 | prepare meals for my family in the evenings, my habit is to pour a glass of wine or two or three |
| 1:07.7 | while I'm cooking. I truly enjoy the ritual, but I hate knowing I don't enjoy cooking |
| 1:13.2 | without a glass of wine in my hand. I actually think about it and rush home after work so I can |
| 1:18.1 | pour myself a glass, put on my apron, and start chopping. But I hate that my kids see me drinking |
| 1:23.6 | every night. I'm scared they will think this is normal. I'm scared that they will learn what |
| 1:28.5 | they live and will do this themselves when they're older. I tend to argue more with my husband and my |
| 1:33.8 | kids when I've been drinking, and I know it's the alcohol. I don't sleep well on the nights that I've had |
| 1:39.1 | two or three glasses of wine, and I wake up looking and feeling tired and angry at myself for my inability to say no. |
| 1:46.3 | And I'm gaining weight, and I know the wine is a factor, but I can't stop. |
| 1:51.3 | Now, Katie is in the trap that so many people find themselves in. |
| 1:55.3 | Why can't I do what I know is good for me, especially when I know all the downsides from drinking too much. |
| 2:03.0 | Now, here's what's important. What Katie is describing isn't about drinking to escape how you feel. |
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