457 - Why Doesn't She Want Sex: The Basics

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.7 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 15 November 2024

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life.

But what happens when that intimacy… isn't happening?

You've tried to explain, you've tried to give your point of view, you've even tried to give pointers, and still… nothing.

What can you do?

At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of intimacy, physical or otherwise.

Here is what we have determined the framework to be:

What Women Need:

To be safe
To be known
To be whole-heartedly cherished

What Men Need:

To be respected
To be admired
To have whole-heartedly sexual intimacy

When these key elements are missing- everything else crumbles. If you are reading (or listening) and wondering why your spouse has not initiated intimacy or why they shut down initiations - look back to this list. Are you giving this to your spouse?

We hope today's episode will bless you as we shed some light on this topic, expand on the 'why' behind these needs, and give practical ways on how to implement this framework - not only for the goal of physical intimacy, but for the goal of having a thriving and beautiful marriage.

We are rooting for you!

God bless,

Belah & Team

PS - To check out the Marital Health Assessment mentioned in this episode, visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/mhac/

PPS - If you are wanting to grow in your marriage and learn exactly how to implement this framework (and get support while you do it!), we would love to talk to you. https://delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast.
0:05.0	You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy.
0:11.0	Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about.
0:17.0	Delight your marriage.
0:19.0	Hi there, this is Bella. Delight your marriage.
0:28.6	Hi there. This is Bella, and I'm so grateful that you are joining here.
0:36.9	I wanted to kind of circle around to something that we talk about so often, but just to reiterate,
0:41.4	because I think it's so easy to get around our own heads and forget some of the basic concepts that we teach here at Delight Your Marriage. So I wanted to reiterate
0:46.5	that. And as we coach and as we train folks in our programs, I'm so honored and grateful to be inside their heads so often and their unfiltered thoughts.
0:59.1	And I remember, God, some of these things are the fundamentals.
1:03.3	And really, you know, it's almost like a sports analogy.
1:06.9	One of our dear teaching assistants gave this analogy the other day of, you know, if somebody's off their golf game and they're, you know, suddenly they make a big mistake in one of their, you know, a big golfing thing.
1:22.9	What do they have to do is go back to just the essentials. Just go back to the basics. What is,
1:28.7	what's at the core, what's at the root of, of what may have gone on there. So, so that's what I want
1:35.5	to do is just the basics. Why, why is intimacy not working in your marriage? Okay, well,
1:39.8	let's, let's kind of unpack some of the essentials, the foundational things to check.
1:45.6	Just open the hood, look under the engine and see what's going on.
1:49.0	Why is an intimacy something she wants anymore?
1:52.5	Why is she going away from you now?
1:54.1	What's going on?
1:56.6	Let's check the essentials.
1:58.1	Let's check the fundamentals.
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