#454 Should You Stay or Go? How To Know When Your Marriage Is Over
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 19 May 2025
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage.
Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing
02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone
10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does
31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help?
49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step
I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website.
If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you.
And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve.
Xoxo
P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.
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| 0:00.0 | Is this marriage over? |
| 0:03.3 | Is there hope? |
| 0:04.2 | And if not, what do I do? |
| 0:19.5 | Let's get real. |
| 0:21.4 | There are few other decisions more terrifying and difficult to make than trying to figure |
| 0:29.0 | out whether to end a marriage. |
| 0:31.9 | Because the fallout touches everything, right? |
| 0:34.9 | Your family, your finances, your identity, your future, right? And on the other |
| 0:42.1 | side of that, though, staying in a dead marriage or an incredibly difficult one, well, that has |
| 0:49.7 | a cost too. And many people, maybe even you, are grappling with this very difficult decision. |
| 0:58.0 | And so that's why on this episode of love, happiness, and success, I really wanted to help you |
| 1:05.9 | walk through the right kinds of questions to be asking, the signs to look for, and also the |
| 1:15.0 | strategies, all of which can help you figure out the real question, which is, is this the end |
| 1:22.9 | of the line for us? |
| 1:24.4 | Or is there still hope? |
| 1:27.0 | And if so, how do we get in a better place as a couple and start a brand |
| 1:34.5 | new chapter in our relationship? So if you're grappling with this, I'm so glad you're here |
| 1:40.8 | with me today. I'm Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby. If this is your first time listening |
| 1:45.7 | to love happiness and success. First of all, I am glad you're here and that you have |
| 1:51.3 | connected with me because I have some insight into this. Part of my background is that I'm a |
| 1:57.3 | licensed marriage and family therapist and I really specialize in matters of the |
| 2:02.0 | heart. I've worked with many couples in this exact same situation, and also many individuals who are |
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