#453 Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 12 May 2025
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you.
I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom.
Together, we’ll explore the hidden layers that keep people emotionally stuck after a breakup — and I’ll share some of the healing work in my Heal From Heartbreak Program that can help you finally stop thinking about your ex for good.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak
14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery
28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur
38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future
48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex
If this episode resonated with you, please know this is just the beginning of what’s possible. If you want a full, guided journey through every layer of healing, I created the Heal From Heartbreak Program for exactly this purpose. In the self-paced program, I’ll walk you through all nine stages of breakup recovery, with optional group coaching or one-on-one support from our expert breakup coaches — all of whom are licensed therapists trained in breakup recovery.
This isn’t just about “getting over it”. It’s about becoming whole again. You are not alone in this, and with the right support you can turn this breakup into your biggest breakthrough.
This program goes live this Friday, 5/16 and you can sign up for the waitlist here: Heal From Heartbreak Program. Once the program is live, you can start healing right away. No more waiting to feel better or trying to figure it out on your own. I'm so excited for you to check it out.
Xoxo
P.S. Ready to find out what stage of healing you’re in? Take my free breakup quiz to find out and get a free custom report with the next steps to heal your broken heart.
And if you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and you're listening to the love, happiness, and success podcast. |
| 0:09.0 | You took my hand and pulled me out of reach from my hopes and dreams. |
| 0:17.8 | You played your part you fooled me. |
| 0:22.2 | Didn't want to face reality. |
| 0:27.8 | That's Torrelli and the fuse with a song Forgive and Remember. |
| 0:33.2 | That is our intro for today's show because today on the love, |
| 0:37.4 | happiness and success podcast, |
| 0:38.9 | we're going to be talking about what to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex and you |
| 0:47.1 | want to. |
| 0:48.1 | You want to. |
| 0:49.0 | This is so common. |
| 0:50.4 | A lot of people, even if intellectually they know that the relationship wasn't good for them |
| 0:56.4 | and needed to end, can still find themselves months, even years still having thoughts about their |
| 1:04.5 | ex or even worse feelings about their ex that might even be keeping them from moving on into new relationships. And if this |
| 1:13.6 | is true for you, you're going to want to listen to this episode because it's all about, first of all, |
| 1:18.4 | understanding why this happens, but most importantly, what you can do to really let go and move on |
| 1:27.3 | for good. First of all, it's very common and I just want to |
| 1:31.9 | say that out loud because what I often see in my role as a therapist, as a life coach, who |
| 1:39.7 | really works a lot with people who are trying to get unstuck from old relationships and heal and grow |
| 1:47.7 | and move on is that one thing that happens is that people can almost like be angry with |
| 1:54.5 | themselves for not being able to let go of this past relationship. They might think something is wrong with them or they're |
| 2:04.1 | having an unusual experience or that it means like something about them that this is happening. |
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