Based on my own experience with kind of the small scale regrets like I was talking about of,

you know, I wish I hadn't said that thing or hadn't done this thing or had reached out to this person or like those sorts of little smaller decisions rather than those big life path ones.

But just looking at those, I feel like yeah positive in the sense of gosh I really regretted that so

then next time I'm in that situation or a similar situation I'll remember that I

regretted that and that'll help me to make a different decision in a similar situation in the future.

However, I feel like the negative is when it turns into ruminating on those things, when I'm not in those situations and not being able to let go of that.

So in that case it's like, yeah, it's not like I want to say have no regret, but I would

like to just have regret less constantly as background noise all the time.

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This episode of the multi-emmery podcast, we're talking about regret.

Regret often gets a bad rap as this useless negative emotion, but psychology research actually

shows regret can help us gain insight, motivation, and direction.

So today we'll be diving into different types of regret, how

regret influences our relationship choices, and most importantly, how we can use

our regrets to make positive changes in our lives.

Yeah, so the question that I wrote down for us to start our discussion with was like,

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