45. “She tells me that it’s my fault we can’t live the life we want to live”

Money For Couples

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.6 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 31 May 2022

⏱️ 71 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Sarah earns more than Andrew. They’re unmarried but imagine a future together, or would like to. The problem is that Andrew’s existing money scripts (and $65k in debt) have him frozen—unable to spend but also unwilling to seriously plan a way out. She wants to spend money on things like vacations, but he doesn’t feel like he can afford to spend. To make things worse, he feels terrible about money in general because that’s how his dad raised him—his presence looms over the conversation. We need to cut out the negative judgments and help Sarah see things from Andrew’s perspective. Then we can talk to Andrew about the mindset to overcome his past—and current—money issues. Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hey, before we get back to the episode, I want to make sure you know about something that
0:03.6	I am sharing this Saturday.
0:06.1	Every year, my wife and I take a mini sabbatical.
0:08.8	It's four to six weeks of traveling.
0:11.5	We've gone to Japan, India, Paris, London, and a bunch of other places.
0:15.6	And this Saturday, in my newsletter, I'm going to share how we do it, how we decide where
0:20.2	we're going, how we make it an unforgettable experience, and even how I set up my logistics
0:26.5	so that my business can run without me being there.
0:30.3	If you've ever thought about traveling more or even taking a sabbatical, I want you to
0:35.0	sign up at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:39.9	This Saturday, September 30th, you can get this new newsletter that I'm sending out only
0:45.5	at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:48.6	Now let's get back to the episode.
0:55.1	When I sit there and I look at it all by myself, you know, it makes sense in my head.
1:03.8	But then whenever it comes up in conversation, my mind starts spinning.
1:08.2	I get like choked up where I get like, I don't know if it's like a nervous or like an anxious
1:12.7	feeling that I start to feel in the back of my head.
1:15.6	I kind of feel like, I feel like my dad's standing right here.
1:20.0	What is he saying to you?
1:22.8	All the stuff that I told me when I was a kid, like money doesn't grow on trees and you
1:27.4	need to be able to take care of your family.
1:29.6	You can't take care of your family if you're working at McDonald's.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Ramit Sethi, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Ramit Sethi and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.