#445 How to Build a Healthier Relationship With Money

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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🗓️ 17 March 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships.

From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money
How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions
Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame
And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life

Timestamps:
00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money
00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert
01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs
04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management
06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice
08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights
10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health
19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts
23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money
24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics
28:39 – Understanding Money Stories
33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers
36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals
42:12 – Conclusion and Resources

I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out!

Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money!

Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there!

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

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0:00.0	Have you ever thought deeply about your relationship with money?
0:11.6	We think a lot about other relationships, our relationships with our partners, friends,
0:17.1	family, even our relationship with ourselves. But money is this constant presence in
0:24.7	everyone's life, whether we like it or not. And if you haven't explored your relationship
0:31.6	with money, there may be some unfinished emotional business that could potentially create problems for you with
0:40.9	regards to how you handle finances, how you manage your career, or even that come up in your
0:47.8	relationship with your partner. There is a way to pay off debt and still enjoy your life in the process.
0:55.2	And that's why today I am so thrilled to be speaking with Jillian Knight.
0:59.8	She like me is a marriage and family therapist, but she specializes in financial therapy.
1:05.9	And she's here today to share her wisdom with us.
1:15.8	Thank you, Jillian.
1:16.8	Yeah, you're welcome.
1:17.7	So happy to be here.
1:18.2	Yay.
1:31.6	Let's just dive right in because I'm so fascinated by your work and what you do as a therapist who is quite focused on helping people understand and improve their relationship with money. You have so much insight into this topic. And I guess one of
1:38.9	the things that would be most helpful is to first help our listeners understand what happens when we are not self-aware
1:49.3	about our relationship with money. What can that look like in someone's life? Yeah, that can actually
1:57.6	look like a lot of different things, which makes it more, it harder and more complex, right?
2:03.6	And as therapists, we know there's a lot of nuance to people's experiences.
2:09.4	But some examples are if you are not aware of your unconscious, below the surface, internalized beliefs that you might be carrying about money.
2:22.2	It can show up in your spending habits.
2:24.0	It can show up when you learn more about personal finance, but you just can't seem to apply
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