Hey, it's Michelle here. Before we jump into the episode today, quick question for you.

Are you the one who works so hard to keep everyone around you happy? Maybe you are starting to realize

that you really struggle to say no. Maybe you just give and give and give and give. And somewhere

underneath all of that giving, there's a quiet exhaustion that just never quite goes away.

You really love being connected to people and you trust easily and you're warm and you're

talkative and you're the one that everyone comes to. But maybe you also find yourself wondering

what others think of you or you're working over time to keep the peace, or you're saying yes,

when every part of you wanted to say no. And the idea of someone being upset with you or

disappointed by you is, I mean, that's almost unbearable. Maybe you've thought, well, that's

just how I am. But here's what's actually going on. When you were a child and something overwhelmed

your nervous system, your body adapted, your nervous system built a defense against that

overwhelm. And over time, that defense became a habit. And then that habit became a pattern.

And now so often what we think of as our personality

is actually just an old pattern running the show. So there are five different capacity patterns.

And these aren't personality types like the Enneagram or the Myers-Briggs. They actually

describe the specific strategy that your nervous system defaults to whenever

you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed or max out at capacity. They don't describe who you are

as much as they describe what's blocking who you are. And once you know your pattern,

you can actually do something about it.

So if you haven't yet, go check out my free What's Your Capacity Pattern Quiz. The link is in the show

notes. It takes just a couple minutes. And once you get your quiz result, you'll be invited to

listen to a free private podcast, all about it,

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