440: Elegant Success: What No One Talks About

School of Self-Image

Tonya Leigh

Self-improvement, Balance, Luxurylifestyle, Education, Arts, Lifestyle, Chic, Fashion & Beauty, Fashion, Coaching, Confidence, Travel, Successful, Luxury, Image, Luxurious, Lifecoachstylecoach, Frenchkisslife, Women, Classy, Selfimage, Elegant

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🗓️ 7 May 2025

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

Unshakeable: Redefining Success on Your Own Terms

In the pursuit of success, many individuals find themselves chasing external markers—such as wealth, recognition, or status—believing that these achievements will bring them happiness and fulfillment. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success, or "elegant success," is fundamentally about creating a life that aligns with your personal values and brings genuine satisfaction.

Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of elegant success—success that is rooted in personal values, alignment, and ease, rather than societal pressures to do more and be more. Tonya shares her reflections on the importance of creating a fulfilling life that feels good on the inside, as well as the challenges many are facing in today's uncertain world. Drawing from her personal experiences, including navigating her own emotional landscape during difficult times, she emphasizes the significance of managing one's nervous system and internal world to cultivate resilience and peace.

Tune in for insights that challenge traditional definitions of success and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to thrive.

Talking Points:

00:33 - Rethinking Success

01:15 - Uncertainty and the Nervous System

03:02 - Leading Through Uncertainty

05:44 - Elegant Success: What No One Tells You

07:08 - The Messiness of Success

10:07 - Life and Business Changes

13:10 - Trusting Your Gut

16:21 - Releasing with Grace

18:05 - Feeling Lost Before Clarity

20:15 - Shedding Old Identities

23:04 - The Emptiness of Misaligned Success

25:01 - Reconnecting with Your Essence

26:05 - Navigating Back to Your North Star

Quotes:
"What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?"

"Elegant success is creating the life you desire without abandoning yourself in the process."

"I've encountered so much peace by just accepting that it's going to feel elegant and then it's going to feel messy again."

"You cannot evolve and expect everyone to come with you."

"The doubt that you may be feeling, well, it's not failure, it's just feedback."

"I started to trade my truth for someone else's checklist, and I was shaping my life around approval instead of alignment."

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Transcript

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0:00.0	What if the version of success that you've been chasing isn't actually yours?
0:05.0	What if doing more, proving more, pushing harder isn't the path, just the programming?
0:11.2	What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?
0:17.3	Well, in this episode, I'm sharing the truth that no one tells you about elegant success,
0:22.7	the kind that's built on values, alignment, ease, and a self-image strong enough to hold it all.
0:28.6	So let's dive in.
0:32.1	Welcome to the School of Self-image, where personal development meets style.
0:37.3	Here's your hostess Master Life Coach,
0:39.6	Tanya Lee. Hello, everyone. Welcome to this episode that I am recording on the most gorgeous
0:47.1	Wednesday that I have experienced in a long time. It is perfection outside. I have taken almost all of my calls and meetings on my
0:56.8	back porch today. And then I looked into my asana and I was like, oh, time to go in and record an
1:03.1	episode. So I am full of vitamin D. I am full of energy. And I am full of excitement for something
1:10.2	I want to share with you.
1:11.7	So a lot of the conversations that I've been having recently is around the uncertainty that
1:18.4	the world is facing.
1:20.5	I've been coaching members through this.
1:22.6	I have been talking to friends who are calling me up and they're freaking out.
1:26.7	You know, they're spending a lot of time
1:28.1	doom scrolling, reading all of the headlines. And I have done a really good job of just
1:34.6	managing my nervous system. I feel like this is what life has been teaching me, especially in the
1:39.7	past decade. You know, when Sarah was sick, I talked about that in last week's episode. I spent a lot of time
1:45.2	just trying to regulate my fight or flight response and managing my internal world. And then COVID
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