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Hello ghost family. Welcome to Family Ghosts.

If you've been listening to the show since our first season,

you probably figured out that my parents are no longer married

and that their divorce and the circumstances surrounding it are a wound that I carry.

I know it's hardly the most serious wound that a person can suffer, but that doesn't change the fact

that when it all went down, it was extremely painful for me.

It reordered my understanding of how the world worked and how relationships were supposed to work.

It left me with questions I'm still sorting through to this day.

But recently, I met someone with what felt to me like a radical perspective on divorce, gratitude.

All I can say is that I'm glad. You know, I'm glad that my parents didn't kind of just hold on through my whole childhood.

That's Ian Koss. He's a radio reporter and producer, and he has been reflecting on his parents' relationship a lot recently,

because he's been working on a documentary about divorce. But not just divorce as a general concept.

You see, divorce is, well, it's sort of Ian's family ghost.

Seven years ago, I asked my partner Kelsey if she would marry me.

I did that despite the fact that every living member of my family who had ever been married had also gotten divorced.

My parents, all my aunts and uncles on both sides, my only living great uncle, my only living grandparent,

not to mention some of my great-grandparents, all had been married and all had been divorced, some of them twice.

So how did Ian reach this place of gratitude for his parents' separation?

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