439 SelfWork: Lessons Learned About Grief
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.7 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 28 March 2025
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
There are many lessons learned about grief through my work in the last 34 years of being a therapist. And today, I want to share them with you in this 439th episode of SelfWork.
Some common questions that I'll cover are:
- Is it ever “too late” to grieve?
- Does your grief mean that your faith isn’t strong enough or that you are failing?
- Is there a right way to grieve?
- Is there a right way to respond to someone’s grief?
- Do you ever get over grief?
- What’s the relationship between grief and shame?
As I often say, I feel as if I’m a conduit – a bridge – between people I’ve seen in the past and those that walk in my office today. I can try to help these present-day clients with lessons learned about grief from those seen in the past.
The listener voicemail is from a mom whose daughter is living with a man whose own mother seems to be trying to control him so that he’ll remain in the home with her – to take care of her etc. It sounds complicated for sure.
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Transcript
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