435: MAKE YOUR MOVE! Kait & JJ Tomlin Drop the HEAT on Why Love Is Forged, Not Found, Red Flags vs. Deal-Breakers, Sliding into the DMs, and Why Women SHOULD Drop the Hanky
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Christopher Cook
4.9 • 528 Ratings
🗓️ 9 April 2025
⏱️ 70 minutes
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Summary
In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships.
They delve into:
- The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found.
- Differentiating between red flags and deal-breakers—and why knowing the difference can save you heartache.
- The art of sliding into DMs with authenticity and respect in the digital age.
- Empowering women to "drop the hanky"—taking initiative without compromising femininity.
In an era where ghosting is rampant and commitment is fleeting, Kait and JJ provide a refreshing perspective rooted in authenticity, intentionality, and faith. Whether you're single, dating, or reevaluating your relationship approach, this conversation offers actionable insights to navigate modern romance with clarity and purpose.
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| 0:00.0 | The Art of Leadership Network. |
| 0:03.2 | The right woman is going to appreciate the clarity of a man coming up to her and saying, |
| 0:07.9 | hey, I find you really interesting or I've really enjoyed conversation with you. |
| 0:11.7 | I'd love to get to know you better. |
| 0:13.3 | Would you want to go on a date sometime? |
| 0:14.8 | She's going to be like, oh my gosh, he was clear. |
| 0:22.6 | Helping you design your roadmap to wholeness from the inside out. |
| 0:27.6 | This is Win Today. |
| 0:30.5 | And now, here's your host, Christopher Cook. |
| 0:35.1 | Hey, friends, welcome to the podcast. |
| 0:37.1 | I'm so glad you're here. It's week two of love like this, |
| 0:40.6 | our four week series, all about relationships. If you missed last week with Stephen Chandler, go back |
| 0:46.0 | and listen to it, watch it on YouTube. Suffice it to say it was an episode not to miss. But today, |
| 0:52.0 | my friends Kate and JJ Tomlinoner here. Why? Because modern dating |
| 0:56.1 | is a minefield, you guys, swipe culture, mixed signals, and the endless search for the one. |
| 1:02.7 | But what if we've been approaching it all wrong? What if love isn't about finding the perfect person, |
| 1:08.1 | but about intentionally building a relationship that lasts. |
| 1:12.5 | Well, this week on Wynn today, as I said, we're joined by my friends Kate and JJ Tomlin, |
| 1:16.6 | the dynamic duo behind the Heart of Dating Podcasts. |
| 1:20.3 | They're here to challenge the fairy tale narratives and get real about what it takes to cultivate |
| 1:25.4 | meaningful connections. So today, we're going to explore |
| 1:28.1 | why the idea of, quote, finding love might be holding you back. We're going to tackle how to |
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