#433 Married With a Crush?
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 23 December 2024
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless... OR they could destroy your life, if you follow them.
Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions!
It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships that they care about need to handle these maturely and with wisdom. That's what you'll learn how to do on today's show. We'll discuss:
- The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop
- The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship
- Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others
- How crushes can turn into something more serious
- How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage
- How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship
- Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else
- Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well
- How to stop having a crush on someone else
- How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker
- How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another.
All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.
xoxo,
GrowingSelf.com
Ps: As we discussed in this episode, part of your action plan needs to be leaning towards your partner in an authentic and emotionally intimate way, and that calls for excellent communication skills. To support you in this, please help yourself to my free two part communication skills training, "Communication That Connects." I made this for you! ... LMB
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| 0:00.0 | My friends, I appreciate you so much and I can't even tell you what a joy it is to be your host |
| 0:09.5 | here on love happiness and success and be of service to you. |
| 0:14.5 | And so I was thinking about something that I could do for you and I decided that I'm going to re-release my favorite podcast |
| 0:24.2 | of all time and share it with you because the reason it's my favorite is because more than any |
| 0:32.0 | other episode, I have had people reaching out and telling me that this one changed their lives. |
| 0:40.4 | Specifically, it actually saved them from doing things that could have been incredibly destructive. |
| 0:51.0 | So as I was thinking about a gift for you and in alignment with my desire to really |
| 0:58.2 | help you, I wanted to put this one back in front of you. Are you married or partnered, but |
| 1:04.7 | harboring feelings for someone else? I know that this is a vulnerable thing to think about. This isn't something |
| 1:12.2 | that we want to, you know, admit to, but it's super, deeper common and depending on how you |
| 1:18.2 | handle it, it can have a huge impact in your life trajectory. So take a listen. Let me know what |
| 1:25.5 | you think. And I wish you all the best, my friend. I'll be back in touch again soon. |
| 1:34.7 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast. |
| 1:40.2 | Well, I love you, babe, I love you stop. When you walk the bus, drum with me walk, I love you once and love you twice. podcast. |
| 2:08.3 | Johnny Powers from Johnny Powers from 1957 with a song, Long blonde hair and Rose Red Lips, singing just so evocatively about the excitement and the zing that you get from having a big fat crush on someone. |
| 2:16.3 | He's singing it. So that is what we're talking about on today's |
| 2:20.5 | podcast is not just, not just the experience of having a profound crush on another person, |
| 2:28.1 | but really the complexity and pros and cons of developing a romantic crush on someone when you are in a |
| 2:38.5 | committed long-term relationship. |
| 2:41.8 | You know, that's not something that we like to think about. |
| 2:45.2 | And it happens. |
| 2:46.1 | It happens a lot. |
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