431: Stop Managing Other People’s Emotions
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
4.8 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 5 March 2025
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
The Power of Setting Boundaries and Trusting Yourself
Managing other people's emotions is a common behavior that many individuals engage in, often with the intention of maintaining harmony and avoiding conflict. However, this habit can lead to significant negative consequences, including emotional exhaustion, resentment, and stifled personal growth for both yourself and those around you.
Tonya Leigh explores the detrimental habit of managing other people's emotions and how it impacts our own happiness and growth. She discusses the importance of breaking free from the need to control how others feel, emphasizing that this behavior stifles both personal and collective development. Tonya shares her recent experience with guided visualization walks, which she refers to as immersion walks, and how they have positively shifted her energy and focus on vibrant well-being. By incorporating practices like Pilates, meditation, and self-care, she reveals how she is reclaiming her health and happiness.
Join Tonya as she dives into strategies for cultivating emotional independence and nurturing your own well-being.
Talking Points:
00:49 - Tonya's Self-Care Routine
02:15 - The Cost of Controlling Emotions
06:10 - Fear of Being the Bad Guy
09:02 - Loss of Self-Trust
12:27 - Self-Image and Managing Emotions
14:54 - Creating Your Own Safety
17:55 - Types of Emotional Management
23:28 - How to Stop Managing Emotions
25:17 - Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
25:50 - Building Emotional Resilience
Quotes:
"I want to challenge you to stop managing other people's emotions."
"True belonging doesn't come from keeping everyone happy. It comes from being unapologetically yourself and trusting that the right people will love and accept you."
"Recognizing it and having the courage to be true to yourself is where you begin to turn your life around."
"I speak my truth with confidence and I let other people have their emotions and their opinions about it."
"So you might as well be the version of you that you love."
"Managing other people's emotions is not your job. Being the fullest, most authentic version of you, that is your job."
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| 0:00.0 | Do you ever feel like your happiness depends on how others feel? Like you're constantly adjusting, |
| 0:06.2 | soothing, or avoiding conflict just to keep the peace. If so, you're not alone. Many of us have been |
| 0:13.2 | conditioned to believe that it's our job to manage other people's emotions. But what if I told you |
| 0:19.0 | that this habit is costing you more than you realize that by trying |
| 0:23.5 | to control how other people feel, you're actually limiting their growth, your growth, |
| 0:29.2 | draining your own energy, and keeping yourself stuck? Well, that's what we're talking about |
| 0:34.2 | in today's episode. So let's dive in. |
| 0:44.0 | Welcome to the School of Self Image, where personal development meets style. |
| 0:47.4 | Here's your hostess, Master Life Coach, Tanya Lee. |
| 0:56.6 | What's happening, gorgeous friends? I just came back from the most glorious walk. One of the things that I have been incorporating into my routine are guided visualization walks. I like to call them |
| 1:03.0 | immersion walks where I immerse myself in a whole new realm of possibility. These are visualizations that I actually created for myself. |
| 1:14.0 | So it's a little interesting hearing myself talk to myself as I walk, |
| 1:18.0 | but I will tell you, they are shifting my energy in ways I have not experienced in such a long time. |
| 1:27.3 | And not only that, my focus this year is on |
| 1:31.2 | vibrant well-being, which is one of the paths of the School of Self-image. And so doing that along |
| 1:38.1 | with Pilates, along with moments of meditation throughout my day, just great food, lots of water. |
| 1:47.6 | I've been getting out in the sunshine. |
| 1:49.2 | I am feeling like a whole new person. |
| 1:51.7 | Feeling so good. |
| 1:53.2 | I'm so excited because last year I got into a habit of putting some of my self-care on the back burner, especially towards the |
| 2:03.0 | end of the year. And so it has just felt so good to return to this place of just exquisite self-care. |
| 2:13.4 | And do you know how else I've been taking care of myself by not trying to control other people's |
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