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🗓️ 21 February 2025
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Episode 431: Pathological Demand Avoidance in Coaching & Persistent Depression
Welcome to another episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Dr. Robert Duff! In this Q&A episode, Dr. Duff tackles two insightful listener questions on very different but equally important mental health topics.
A listener working as an individual sports coach seeks advice on how to best support a talented but highly resistant student who displays signs of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Dr. Duff dives into:
What PDA is and how it manifests in individuals, particularly in relation to autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent conditions.
The importance of reframing PDA as a high drive for autonomy rather than defiance.
Practical coaching strategies to work around demand avoidance, including collaborative goal setting, offering choices, and making training sessions more engaging and playful.
The significance of open-ended questions and genuine curiosity in understanding the root of a student’s resistance.
A listener describes their struggle with long-term, low-grade depression despite attempts with medication and therapy. Dr. Duff provides insights into:
Understanding Persistent Depressive Disorder (formerly known as dysthymia) and how it differs from episodic major depression.
Behavioral activation as a treatment approach, including strategies for identifying and engaging in potentially enjoyable activities despite a lack of motivation or pleasure.
The five-minute rule to help overcome resistance to activities.
Medication considerations, including alternatives like Wellbutrin (bupropion) and the combination drug Auvelity, which may have fewer side effects.
Non-medication treatments such as Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and ketamine therapy.
The importance of evaluating life circumstances to identify external contributors to chronic depression, such as hidden identity struggles or unsatisfying relationships.
[00:00] Intro and updates on Dr. Duff’s upcoming bipolar book
[03:00] Question 1: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in coaching
[12:00] Strategies for engaging students with PDA
[14:00] Question 2: Chronic low-grade depression and treatment options
[19:00] Behavioral activation and the five-minute rule
[23:00] Medication alternatives and non-pharmacological treatments
[27:00] Life circumstances and their role in persistent depression
[28:00] Outro and listener support requests
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Previous episodes on TMS and ketamine treatments: http://duffthepsych.com/podcast
More on ketamine treatments: https://duffthepsych.com/ect-and-ketamine/
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0:00.0 | I have heard a lot of people that experience PDA say it's more accurate to describe it as |
0:04.8 | avoidance of anything that threatens their sense of autonomy, right? So their own control over |
0:10.1 | themselves and their life. In fact, a lot of people prefer to think of it in a less |
0:15.4 | pathological way. People can also avoid everyday tasks like brushing their teeth or getting dressed, even going to the bathroom at a certain level. |
0:23.8 | And it's not always when somebody is asked directly from another person. |
0:28.1 | It could be that there are expectations like from an institution like school or work, societal expectations, things like that. |
0:36.1 | Maybe he doesn't actually like the sport that he's very good at and that he's being forced to play by his parents. |
0:42.3 | Maybe he's had a bad experience or even trauma related to coaching or to male figures in the past. |
0:48.3 | Framing things as a collaboration, giving him agency. This will probably go a long way. |
0:53.3 | There's nothing inherently |
0:55.0 | broken about this kid, which I know you know already, but there might be some ways to make |
1:00.1 | things more collaborative, put him in control. Again, keep that mindset of he has a very high |
1:04.7 | drive for autonomy, not he's defiant. And that might help you out. |
1:16.8 | Thank you. He's defiant. And that might help you out. All right. |
1:17.3 | Hello, friends. |
1:17.9 | Welcome to the hardcore self-help podcast. |
1:19.6 | I'm your host, Dr. Robert Duff. |
1:21.1 | Today I have a question and answer episode. |
1:24.0 | Two questions here, really good ones. |
1:25.8 | I'm excited to get into those. |
1:27.4 | Before that, |
1:28.3 | please, if you would like to send me a question for the show, send me an email to duffeasike |
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