#430 Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist (And How to Cope)

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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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🗓️ 2 December 2024

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Are you walking on eggshells, questioning your sanity, and starting to wonder if your partner’s behavior is actually...narcissism?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the challenging and often painful question of whether you might be married to a narcissist. Narcissism isn’t a one-size-fits-all diagnosis; it has shades, nuances, and layers, which can make it tough to recognize and even harder to deal with.

Chapters:

00:45 - The Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist

10:47 - The Two Types of Narcissists: Wounded vs. Malignant.

19:12 - Inside the Narcissistic Relationship Cycle

27:00 - Can a Relationship with a Narcissist Work?

44:42 - Strategies to Navigate Conflicts.

If you're in a relationship with someone who might be a narcissist, I know how exhausting and frustrating communication can be. That's why I created my free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects. You’ll learn practical tools to de-escalate arguments, protect your emotional well-being, and build healthier patterns of connection, even with difficult personalities. I hope you check it out. ❤️

And don’t forget to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET on YouTube, where we’ll chat all about being married to a narcissist. You can ask an anonymous question in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

If you know someone else who could benefit from this episode, send it over to them! Let’s keep looking out for each other.

Xo,
Dr. Lisa

GrowingSelf.com

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0:00.0	Are you constantly walking on eggshells, questioning your sanity, wondering if the person you're with even cares about you, or worse, starting to feel like it's all your fault?
0:13.1	If this is sounding familiar, you could be married to a narcissist.
0:17.2	Music a narcissist.
0:28.6	And today I'm going to help you figure that out.
0:33.5	I'm Dr. Lisa Marie, Bobby, and in the next little while, we're going to be tackling one of the most painful and confusing relationship questions,
0:37.9	am I married to a narcissist?
0:39.4	And if so, what can I do about it?
0:42.3	And I will be providing you with free resources
0:45.6	that will help you get more clarity and take action.
0:49.3	I'm going to hold out. Mood music today, thanks to Slim Sesma's Auto Club.
1:06.5	The song is Cold Cold Eyes, which I thought was very appropriate for our subject today, because
1:12.6	we're talking about cold, cold hearts being in a relationship with a narcissist.
1:18.0	First of all, let's talk about signs you are married to a narcissist.
1:23.5	And this is important because there can be a lot of different reasons that people can show up in
1:30.7	self-absorbed or unempathetic ways that have nothing to do with their being a narcissist.
1:38.2	But if it's a real narcissist, you're going to have to handle this.
1:42.2	So here are the things to look for. First of all, narcissists
1:47.2	lack empathy, meaning that they rarely consider your needs, your rights, your feelings. They are
1:56.0	very focused on how they feel, what they think or what they need. Secondly, narcissists will always have
2:04.6	a strong need for admiration, validation, agreement. And if you're not showering them with a lot of
2:12.9	praise or approval, they don't just not like it. They will get upset, like really upset, and even lash out.
2:21.0	Another thing on the narcissist, bingo card, is manipulation. This means things like gaslighting,
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