43: Codependency Doesn’t Exist with Shahem McLaurin

Struggle Care

KC Davis

Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 750 Ratings

🗓️ 24 July 2023

⏱️ 47 minutes

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"Dear Listeners, "We want to inform you that this episode marks the end of our current season. We would like to take a break during the month of August to recharge and prepare exciting new content for you. We will be back with fresh episodes in September, filled with engaging discussions and insightful interviews. We appreciate your support and look forward to reconnecting with you soon" -KC Davis Codependency is one of those buzzwords often used in therapy and mental health around relationships. Today’s guest has provoked a lot of feedback by challenging people’s views on this subject. Join us for this intriguing conversation. I’m joined by one of my favorite people on TikTok, Shahem Mclaurin, a social worker in Brooklyn, NY, with over 500,000 followers on social media. Shahem is self-described as a person who is “queer as hell, Black as hell, and loud as hell.” They use their platform to address a wide range of social and mental health issues impacting people of color, patriarchy-impacted people, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Show Highlights: ● How Shahem’s view of codependency has challenged the worldview of many people ● Why Shahem got a lot of blowback from his thoughts on codependency when he began to challenge popular worldviews ● Why we need to differentiate between attention-seeking and connection-seeking behaviors ● Why people get defensive when their “codependency identification” is challenged ● How the term codependency originated as part of popular therapeutic language ● How our culture sees having empathy for someone and expecting accountability from them as opposites that can’t both be true at the same time ● Thoughts on codependency, outside validation, connectivity, and feeling emotionally safe ● How to take a look at your unique journey “in the pool” Resources and Links: Connect with Shahem: TikTok and Instagram Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:29.7	Hello, you sentient balls of stardust.
1:31.8	Welcome to Struggle Care.
1:33.1	This is the podcast about self-care, mental health, and just shit that I want to talk about in general.
1:39.0	I'm here with genuinely one of my favorite TikTokers, Shahim, and you are a licensed professional social worker.
1:45.9	And say a few words about yourself so that the audience can know who you are.
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