Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole Show. I want to start this with

a question. If you complain to a friend or a family member about something that's hurtful

that someone else did or said to you, how often do you hear things like, well, it takes two

to tango, or you're too sensitive, or you married them, or if you just hadn't said this,

or why can't you just forgive and forget? Or why don't you just let it go? Why are you always stirring up

trouble? I could keep going. I will stop. But anybody, are you nodding your head? Yes. I did. That's exactly,

anyway, that's exactly what this episode is about, is abuse enablers. People who, when you tell them,

someone did something crappy to you, they can't wait to blame you for the crappy thing the other

person did. So in this episode, I'm going to be really breaking down

why people end up siding with abusers and with people who are exhibiting bad behavior

and helping you take a relationship inventory so you can get clear about who are you

relating to this way in your life. And I'm giving you some steps that you can take to protect yourself.

But I also want to let you know that I'm doing a second part of this.

This is the two-part series because the first part has got to be raising awareness

and having a deeper understanding.

And then the second part is all

going to be situations, scenarios, and scripts, how to handle it, what you can do. So in this part,

we're really raising awareness. And of course, I'm giving you action steps. And you can get all of

this in the guide, which is at terry cole.com forward slash guide. And I got inspired to do a two-part

a little series on this because I did a reel on this. And the response was overwhelming

how people were like, oh my God, this is my life, or this is so painful, or I didn't even know

that this was happening. I didn't recognize it until this little, it was like a 35 second real,

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