427 - 6 Steps To Take After You’ve Been Caught Watching Porn

Pure Desire Podcast

Pure Desire Ministries

Sexual Addiction Recovery, Religion & Spirituality, Celebrate Recovery, Sexuality, Porn Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Health & Fitness, Aa, Education, Betrayal Trauma, Recovery, Biblical Recovery, Christian Recovery, Healing, Sa, Christianity, Self-improvement

4.6 • 682 Ratings

🗓️ 9 September 2025

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Getting caught looking at porn can be an emotionally overwhelming experience, filled with shame, confusion, and fear. In this episode, we sit down with Jason Karsten to explore the six most crucial steps someone should take immediately after discovery—from seeking support and establishing boundaries to giving themselves grace and beginning the healing process. Jason shares practical advice on taking responsibility without being consumed by shame, the importance of honesty and transparency, and how to shift the focus from just managing behavior to pursuing true inner transformation. We also discuss the power of creating healthy boundaries that foster growth rather than punishment, and why rushing your partner toward forgiveness may backfire. Whether you’re just beginning your recovery or helping someone else walk through it, this episode offers clear, compassionate guidance for navigating the difficult—but hopeful—path ahead. Healing is possible, and this conversation is a powerful first step toward lasting change.

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0:00.0	Hello, hello there, good listener. I am your host, Nick Stumbo, and you are listening to the
0:09.7	Pure Desire podcast, your biblically based and clinically informed approach to healing from
0:14.5	betrayal and breaking free from compulsive sexual behaviors. Today is episode 427, and here joining me as my co-host for this new
0:23.6	series is Miss Ashley Jameson. Ashley, welcome back. It's good to have you on the podcast again.
0:29.9	It's great to be here, especially because I was just driving home from vacation and my husband and I were listening to some Dave Ramsey
0:39.4	podcast episodes and they created like a shortcut one like Ramsey 101 because once you get to the
0:47.7	point of having so many podcasts, if you're new, it can be hard to sort through and figure out
0:52.1	which episodes to listen to first. And so I'm really excited about this series because I was thinking, we need to do that. And then I'm like, wait, we are doing that. So we have a series of like, start here. You know, if this is a new discovery for you and you just need to kind of get grounded with some information. I think this series is going to do that.
1:11.2	Yeah, yeah. Well, I'm going to take from what you said that we are just as good as Dave Ramsey.
1:15.1	So that's awesome. And yes, we wanted to do a series. So this is part one of four on the first 60 days
1:22.5	after discovery. Or you might think of it as the first 60 days of your recovery. And so if you're listening to today's episode because it was referred to you, you maybe
1:32.3	happened across it on YouTube or social media, and you're stuck in getting caught in your stuff,
1:37.3	or having secret behaviors come to light or your spouse is aware of something and you've got huge
1:43.3	relational chaos going on
1:44.7	and you're wondering, what do I do?
1:46.3	Where do I go?
1:47.3	How do we start?
1:48.5	This series is for you.
1:50.2	This episode and the third one are for you, the struggler.
1:53.6	And the second episode and the fourth episode
1:55.6	are primarily for the betrayed spouse.
1:57.9	And our goal is to give you some traction,
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