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Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

426: There's a Difference Between Nurturing and Enabling

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs

Christianity, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Kids & Family, Christian Parent, Religion & Spirituality, Faith, Motherhood

4.9936 Ratings

🗓️ 23 July 2024

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

Are you raising confident kids? Today Karen encourages moms to take a step back so our kids can step up. She and Emily discuss the pitfalls of doing things for our kids and the reasons we often fall into that trap. They also talk about the difference between nurturing and enabling and share the critical connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids!

Episode Recap:

6:40 Why is there a whole chapter on confidence in this book? 

8:32 Where are moms missing the mark when it comes to raising confident kids?

12:56 What role do chores play in confidence? 

14:04 Small, practical ways you can allow your children to grow in confidence

Scripture for Reflection:

Galatians 6:5 (NIV): "For each one should carry their own load."

Questions for Discussion:

  1. Can you identify any specific behaviors or actions where you might be enabling your child rather than nurturing their independence? What changes could you make to shift from enabling to nurturing?
  2. Reflect on a recent situation where you stepped back and allowed your child to handle something on their own. How did it go, and what did you learn from the experience?
  3. How do you incorporate chores into your child's routine? How have you seen chores impact your child's sense of responsibility and confidence?
  4. What are some small, practical steps you can take to help your child grow in confidence? How can you implement these steps in your daily routine?


Resources:

- Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
- Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

Transcript

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0:00.0

We do the child's work for them. You know the child brings home a project. The child obviously says I can't do this. I mean you were a teacher for four years. How many times did you hear that? I can't do this. This is too hard.

0:14.0

And I'm sure as a teacher you're like, okay, just let me do it for you.

0:17.0

No.

0:18.0

Well, yeah, and like even the projects, I can't do that project. I need help.

0:21.0

I can help you, but I'm not going to do it for you. Right and so that's

0:25.3

what we as moms have to get confident in ourselves to be like I will help you but I'm

0:31.8

not going to do it for you but I think what comes into play is we feel guilty

0:36.8

Welcome to Wire Talk where we encourage and equip moms by answering practical questions about motherhood.

0:42.8

We want to help instill God's truth in your heart

0:45.0

so you can experience more joy and peace

0:47.9

on your journey of motherhood.

0:49.2

Are you ready for some truth?

0:50.6

Let's dive in.

0:51.8

Hello everyone. truth. Let's dive in.

0:56.0

Hello everyone and welcome to Wire Talk. I'm your host Emily and with me is Karen Stubbs, which is also my mom.

1:01.0

If you're a first time listener you may not know that so hello mom

1:04.0

hello Emily how are you I'm good how are you I'm good I'm good I had a cold

1:09.1

through this morning and that was a not wise choice before we started recording

1:13.0

podcast.

1:13.6

And I was like, I'm gonna die because my heart rate was so high.

1:17.4

But I ate some crackers.

1:18.5

I've kind of settled down.

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