I was confused. 

There I was a new bride, having saved myself for marriage... 

only to find out that my new husband wanted me to do SINFUL things. 

Where did he get all this "inspiration" anyway? 

Oh, I knew: sinful places.

So, of course, I refused. And of course, it brought mutual anger (covering each of our hurt). 

What's your story?

If it's even remotely like mine, I needed to change the lens in which I was viewing sex. 

I wasn't viewing sex from a biblical standpoint. 

I was viewing sex from a sexually perverted lens. (Even though I saved my sex for marriage, I certainly received messages from the world that perverted the purity and unashamedness that is meant to be in the bedroom.)

I was thinking about a sinful visual I had, at some point, encountered that I knew was wrong. Instead of recognizing the COMPLETELY different and HOLY context of my marriage, I decided the act was associated with my experience that was not God's will. 

Maybe you've gone through something profoundly tragic, if so, my heart goes out to you. And now you're married and there are so many things that feel hard to move towards because of the past. There is hope. Hope for healing and even hope for desire. 

Be washed by truth. That's my aim in this conversation. That you will realize that our God is a God of intimacy and freedom in your marriage. 

When you wash your mind with the truth of His design within the marriage bed, may you slowly wade (or dive in) into the waters of marital intimacy and find out it's nice and warm (with your spouse :) )

In this conversation, I talk about:

1 - the actual boundaries God gives in the Bible

2 - the clear freedom He gives, biblically speaking and logically reasoned

3 - the difference between masculine and feminine sex

4 - the invitation to align your typical life with the standard of the Bible (which is often overlooked... a frequent contradiction)

Love, 

Belah

PS - If you'd like help with your marriage, we're here and would love to witness God transform it and bring you the freedom and joy you are longing for!

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Start the process today and start enjoying your marriage!

PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: 

"We were emotionally, intimately, and spiritually disconnected. We lived in the same house, but didn't live together.  I was angry and bitter…"

AFTER: "My wife and I are closer than we have ever been! She has a glow. It's crazy how much we love each other.  Life is fun!"