#424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. Dan Siegel
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 21 October 2024
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck!
This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!)
- The healing power of contingent communication in relationships
- Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth
- The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life!
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing
02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development
06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication
13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life
14:31 Healing from the Past
20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns
21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality
23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!)
27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth
30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty
35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration
38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts
🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/.
And… drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself!
Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
Let’s grow together! 🌱
Love,
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| 0:00.0 | Maybe like a lot of people, you didn't get all the love, support, or even emotional security |
| 0:07.9 | that you really needed growing up. And now as an adult, you're feeling the effects of that |
| 0:14.1 | in your relationships, in your self-esteem, or even in your ability to feel like the kind of |
| 0:19.8 | person you want to be and create the kind of |
| 0:22.4 | life that you want to have. Now, if this resonates, I want you to know two things. First of all, |
| 0:28.1 | you are not alone in this, but also you are not stuck. Because today here on love, happiness, |
| 0:35.4 | and success, we are joined by the legendary Dr. Daniel Siegel, |
| 0:40.8 | who is going to show us how to rewire our brains for emotional healing, how to reparent ourselves, |
| 0:47.4 | how to break free from the past and into a bright new future. |
| 0:52.5 | Spoiler and light nausea. and into a bright new future. |
| 1:05.9 | Oh my gosh. |
| 1:08.7 | I could listen to that girl sing all day. |
| 1:13.5 | You guys are listening to the band Lucius. The song is old tape, and I chose this because it is a story of a hero's journey, someone who is aware of their |
| 1:20.8 | own programming and who is taking action to move past the past just like you. Learn more about Lucius on their bandcamp page. I love lucius. |
| 1:32.3 | com.com. Okay, we have so much to talk about today. Let's get right down to business. And welcome |
| 1:39.7 | Dr. Daniel Siegel. Dr. Bobby, thank you for having me. |
| 1:45.0 | Pleasure to be here. |
| 1:48.7 | Well, I am so excited to have you on the show. |
| 1:53.2 | I have to tell you my listeners, like, I'm a little bit starstruck right now. |
| 1:59.5 | So in graduate school and beyond, I mean, your work, your books are just part of the fabric of what therapists learn and what we do. And so it's such an |
| 2:04.1 | honor to have you join me today. And so for my listeners, before we dive into all of this, I do actually |
| 2:11.3 | need to spend a few moments. Just explaining to you like who Dr. Siegel is and what he does, Dr. Siegel is one of the |
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