418: Healing Childhood PTSD with Anna Runkle The Crappy Childhood Fairy

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

Robert Duff, Ph.D.

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4.6 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 October 2024

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I sit down with Anna Runkle, better known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, to explore her journey of healing from childhood PTSD and the unique methods she has developed to help others do the same. Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide re-regulate their nervous systems and recover from deep emotional wounds using simple but powerful techniques. We dive deep into what childhood PTSD really is, how it differs from complex PTSD, and what doctors often get wrong about trauma. Anna also shares her personal story of growing up in a chaotic commune, the lasting effects of emotional neglect and abandonment, and the practical steps she used to reclaim her life and happiness.

Whether you're personally affected by trauma or seeking to support someone who is, Anna’s wisdom, tools, and personal insights provide valuable takeaways for anyone on a healing journey.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction
- Introduction to Anna Runkle, aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and her mission to help people heal from childhood PTSD.
- Overview of the topics to be covered: childhood trauma, PTSD, healing methods, and Anna’s personal story.
2:30 – Anna’s Early Life and Growing Up in a Commune
- Anna describes her chaotic upbringing in a Berkeley commune, surrounded by addiction, neglect, and violence.
- The impact of family addiction and how it shaped her view of the world.
7:15 – Understanding Childhood PTSD vs. Complex PTSD
- Anna explains the difference between childhood PTSD and complex PTSD, and why she uses a more accessible term for the general public.
- How childhood trauma can stay latent and resurface in adulthood after new traumatic events.
12:45 – Coping Mechanisms and the Breaking Point
- Anna shares how being the "good girl" helped her survive but eventually led to deep depression.
- Her experience of hitting rock bottom and the overwhelming effects of what she calls a "trauma storm."
16:30 – The Effects of Gaslighting and Emotional Neglect
- Anna discusses the emotional invalidation she faced growing up and the gaslighting that made her doubt her own reality.
- The lasting impact of growing up in an environment of denial.
21:00 – The Role of Attachment Wounds and Limerence
- How unresolved emotional neglect led to dysfunctional relationships in Anna’s life, especially through a phenomenon called "limerence"—an obsessive, addictive form of love.
- The cycle of seeking validation in unhealthy ways due to an insecure attachment style.
27:30 – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Regulation
- Anna explains the concept of nervous system dysregulation and how trauma impacts not only emotions but also physical health.
- Her personal health struggles with autoimmune diseases and chronic fatigue, and how regulating her nervous system led to profound healing.
33:00 – The Power of Simple Healing Techniques
- Anna shares the simple yet powerful technique of writing down fears and resentments daily, a method she learned from a friend in AA.
- How this practice gave her the emotional relief she had been seeking for years.
38:45 – Generational Trauma and Breaking the Cycle
- Anna reflects on the generational trauma in her family and the importance of breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and dysfunction.
- How her own healing journey has allowed her to parent with more stability and emotional availability.
43:00 – The Myth of ‘What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger’
- Anna challenges the common belief that trauma automatically leads to growth, explaining that for many people, trauma can be devastating without proper support.
- The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity.
48:15 – Finding True Healing and Becoming Your Full Self
- Anna talks about the ultimate goal of trauma healing: becoming your full, real self and creating space to hear your own inner guidance.
- The importance of personal freedom, acceptance, and helping others on their healing journey.
53:00 – Practical Takeaways and Final Thoughts
- Anna offers actionable advice for anyone struggling with childhood trauma, focusing on simple daily practices that help re-regulate the nervous system and foster healing.
- How to connect with Anna and learn more about her work with the Crappy Childhood Fairy.

Key Takeaways:

Childhood PTSD often goes unrecognized or is misunderstood, even within the medical community.
Emotional neglect and trauma can deeply impact adult relationships, leading to patterns of insecurity and attachment wounds.
Healing from trauma involves re-regulating the nervous system, a process that can lead to profound physical, emotional, and mental recovery.
Simple daily practices, like writing down fears and resentments, can provide powerful emotional relief and open the door to deeper healing.
Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is possible, and it begins with self-awareness, acceptance, and practical steps toward recovery.

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0:00.0	Nobody ever suggested to me that I had PTSD and I was I was breaking down I became
0:06.4	suicidally depressed I was having trouble processing information I couldn't
0:10.4	remember who I was talking to on the phone I couldn't dial the phone I couldn't remember who I was talking to on the phone. I couldn't dial the phone. I couldn't read a paragraph.
0:15.2	And I was going to work and popping off my mouth saying things that were hostile and inappropriate and about to get fired.
0:20.6	I had no help. Now that I'm talking to you about it, you know, I'm like not only
0:25.1	was it chaotic and broken glass in the morning and strangers walking around the house naked.
0:29.0	It's just that everybody would tell you that this was good and everything was fine.
0:33.1	I grew up in a commune in Berkeley for much of my early childhood.
0:38.0	Oh, that was all peace and love.
0:39.6	It's like, no, there's a lot of drugs and alcohol very low supervision not always food crazy
0:45.4	sexual stuff going on in the house for 30 years. I've been working with people who
0:49.8	who are affected similarly and it's so wonderful because at least our symptoms are really common, like very similar across people. There's a couple flavors, but more or less like we understand each other.
1:03.0	There's a hopelessness that some people are ashamed to reveal and I'm here to tell you as a living example.
1:09.0	Actually healing is possible and it can get better if you can let in a little shift about how to do it. All right, everybody. Today I'm excited to welcome Anna Runkle, the crappy childhood fairy,
1:31.6	Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide heal from childhood PTSD using some unique methods that helped her heal from her own trauma.
1:39.0	We're going to talk all about childhood PTSD, what doctors get wrong about that topic, and also Anna's new book.
1:45.2	That should be out by the time you hear this.
1:46.7	So Anna, welcome to the show.
1:48.6	Thank you.
1:49.6	We were just talking about whether you are the childhood,
1:52.6	Koopkap a childhood fairy or if it's a,
1:54.6	you know, a broader thing.
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