"We're just so different."

"We have nothing in common."

"Our personalities are not compatible."

 

This is a big problem in marriages. 

People notice differences and assume it's a bad thing. 

This is understandable...but very wrong. 

 

God, in His amazing creativity, designed your spouse and you differently. 

He also made a deer look differently than an alligator. He made a duck's personality differently than an anaconda's.  He made the octopus loners, but curious, and the ant disciplined, but incredibly collaborative.

Why do we assume and expect God to make two humans alike? 

Especially when the two sexes are SO different in many other ways (hair growth, voice pitch, hip width...to name a few!)

You're different from your spouse and it's to be marveled at as God's handiwork (Ephesians 3). 

And, HE knit your spouse together (Psalms 139). 

You GET to appreciate their uncommon traits. Not scowl and be annoyed at how unusual they are.

This is GOD's creativity that YOU get to enjoy if you have the right perspective. 

 

That's my invitation today. 

Put on new glasses when you look at your spouse. The glasses of appreciating their uniqueness and idiosyncrasies and make that something that fills you with joy and respectful amusement and admiration.

Love,
Belah

 

PS Do you want help developing healthy mindsets like this? We can help and we invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.

 

Client Testimonial:

Before Delighted Wife: 

"Coming into the program initially, things between us were very bad. We could not speak to each other at all and we felt pretty hopeless. Our home was constantly full of tension and negativity. My husband was singling out our son and taking his frustrations out on him."

 

After Delighted Wife:

"My biggest celebration is my shift in mindset and being able to see the good in my husband once again. Even for a long time while I was in the program, I was convinced that if my husband would "do something," things would improve. I did not realize how much I contributed to the discord in our marriage. I didn't realize how hard my heart was or how much healing needed to take place.

 

It has changed everything! If I were to take the marital health assessment, I think our score would still be a low number, but we are the happiest we have ever been and I am going to focus on that and on making tomorrow better than today."