417: How Our Relationship with Ourselves Sets the Tone for the Health of All Relationships

The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style

Shannon Ables

Society & Culture, Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 944 Ratings

🗓️ 7 January 2026

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

"The relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship we will ever have, and we will have to continuously work on that relationship to break through the barriers that prevent us from true emotional intimacy with another person." —Jillian Turecki

With a new year's beginning, the idea of love may be dancing about on our intentions list. But in order to successfully experience real love, we need to build a foundation to be able to identify it, choose it, and then nurture it. Jillian Turecki's successful podcast Jillian On Love shares advice on how to build healthy and fulfilling relationships, and in January of last year, her book It Begins With You was released quickly becoming a New York Times Bestseller. Along with her IG account, she continues to share tips and insights based on her relationship coaching sessions with clients and her own relationship experience.

In today's episode, I'll be share nine insights I walked away with, rest assured, not the nine overarching points mentioned in her subtitle, that provide specific reminders of how we play a role in being able to successfully find the love (hint, hint, it involves being loving to ourselves) we want to experience in our life.

Let's get started.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the simple sophisticate, where in 2014, this podcast premiered, and now in its 12th season,
0:10.0	the show continues to focus on the same principles it was founded upon, the art of living a life of quality over quantity.
0:18.0	Topics range from creating an everyday life you love living, strengthening mindfulness
0:22.9	practices, building a capsule wardrobe, preparing seasonally delicious meals, traveling and exploring
0:29.2	France and Britain, and living life to the fullest as you courageously honor your true self,
0:34.8	because living well really is quite simple once we know the skills of
0:39.3	cultivating contentment. I'm your host, Shannon Ables, and whether you're listening while
0:44.7	you're on your commute, exercising, working in the garden or art studio, in route or returning from
0:50.4	that dream destination, or sitting down and savoring a hot cuppa or a cafe au lae. Thank you for
0:57.1	tuning in. Let's get started. Welcome to the 417th episode of the simple sophisticate. And Bona ni or
1:06.3	Happy New Year. Yes, we are stepping into a very wide open, full of possibility,
1:14.3	calendar year, 12 months waiting for us to embrace every single day. And so we're going to
1:21.7	start with an episode this month that talks about relationships but looks at it from a different
1:29.4	perspective because, well, I'm getting ahead of myself before I dive into today's topic.
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1:53.1	loves gardening, just being outdoors. Anyway, it's a free app and it's something I listen to every single day for a few hours.
2:02.9	All right. I have two quick bits of news and information I'm going to share with you.
2:07.4	First of all, I want to send a huge thank you out to longtime listener, Sheila S.
2:12.6	You reached out to me via email last month and I want to extend a thank you because I so appreciate
2:20.1	feedback from listeners about what they enjoy, why they tune in, which episodes speak to you,
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