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The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style

416: How to Find Peace — The Joy and Necessity of Solitude

The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style

Shannon Ables

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education

4.7944 Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

With the holidays upon us, I have come to discover an unexpected gift of enjoying my own company during this time of year - the realization of what I most enjoy about the holidays.

And here's the catch: when it is chosen, it is liberating. It's clarifying, and as the quote above acknowledges, it is life-elevating.

This doesn't mean we are alone 24 hours a day, or even live alone. What solitude, regularly savored, gives us is the life we say we want, but either haven't yet realized or haven't yet trusted to be dependable in what it gives us.

As we'll talk about further along in our post today, part of the reason those of us who already do enjoy our solitude, however much or little we have, may doubt the nourishment is because our culture doesn't value it or speak about it in as praising terms as it does social activities and living situations. Words are powerful. Propaganda, persuasive marketing, it all involves words, and how we speak about what is valued, when heard often enough, will influence our trust in what is possible, what we are willing to be brave enough to explore, even with all of the unknowns.

"Solitude, which is one of the most agreeable sensations of the natural man, and it is one of the most painful and alarming sensations of the civilised man." ― William J. Dawson, The Quest of the Simple Life

The value of solitude, regularly experienced, has the capacity to bring peace not only into our lives but also, consequently, expand more widely into a community of peaceful people. And what better time of year to talk about peace on earth, non? How can we bring about more peace? By finding true peace within ourselves. Where do we find what we have so far been unable to locate to experience this peace - in the companionship of ourselves.

No, I am not saying you have to be single, but you can be. No, I am not saying you have to spend all day, all week alone, but you can. As you will discover below, the amount of solitude is as unique as each individual. The key lies in the ingredients of the solitude we partake in. Let's take a look at how to embrace solitude, what we gain from it, and how to change the narrative around solitude in our culture.

"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." —Blaise Pascal, a seventeenth-century French mathematician, inventor and philosopher

Find the Show Notes for episode #416 on The Simply Luxurious Life blog - https://thesimplyluxuriouslife.com/podcast416 

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0:00.0

Welcome to the simple sophisticate, where in 2014, this podcast premiered, and now in its 12th season,

0:10.0

the show continues to focus on the same principles it was founded upon, the art of living a life of quality over quantity.

0:18.0

Topics range from creating an everyday life you love living, strengthening mindfulness

0:22.9

practices, building a capsule wardrobe, preparing seasonally delicious meals, traveling and exploring

0:29.2

France and Britain, and living life to the fullest as you courageously honor your true self,

0:34.8

because living well really is quite simple once we know the skills of

0:39.3

cultivating contentment. I'm your host, Shannon Ables, and whether you're listening while

0:44.7

you're on your commute, exercising, working in the garden or art studio, in route or returning from

0:50.4

that dream destination, or sitting down and savoring a hot cuppa or a cafe au lae. Thank you for

0:57.1

tuning in. Let's get started. Welcome to the 416th episode of the simple, sophisticated, and

1:05.2

happy holidays. Yes, we are in the middle of December, as everyone who is tuning in knows, and we are in the

1:13.9

middle of the holiday season. Whether you have feet of snow, whether you have no snow at all,

1:22.0

I hope your holiday season is going well. And today's episode is, well, not directly about the holiday season,

1:29.7

although the Petit Pleasure is. I really think you'll enjoy this. It was a fine I came across

1:34.9

recently and I was like, oh, I think this would be perfect for not a traditional holiday film,

1:41.9

but at the same time, there are traditional elements. And I think it's very timely

1:45.5

for our moment right now. Anyway, I'll talk more about that at the end of the episode. But

1:50.8

today's episode is one you can listen to it any time of the year. So if you're tuning in now,

1:55.8

and this is well after the holidays, it is definitely one to listen to because it is evergreen in that regard.

2:03.4

However, I think sometimes this particular topic is a wonderful one to explore at the time of

2:08.8

the holidays for validation and reassurance and provide acknowledgement to do what nourishes

2:16.5

us, whatever that may be. And it will be different for each of us

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