415: The “Be” Decision
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
4.8 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 13 November 2024
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Calm, Cool, and Connected: Embracing a New State of Being
One of the most crucial decisions we make daily is what she refers to as the "B decision." This decision centers on consciously choosing who we want to be in any given moment, regardless of the external circumstances we face.
Host Tonya Leigh dives into the concept of the "B decision," which focuses on the essential question we should ask ourselves: "Who do I want to be right now?" Tonya highlights the importance of this decision in shaping our experiences and handling life's challenges. She reflects on the anxiety and frustration many people feel when they rely on external circumstances to dictate their state of being. Using a personal story from her recent trip to New York City, she illustrates how life’s unpredictability can impact our emotions but emphasizes that we have the power to choose our responses. Tune in to explore how embracing the B decision can transform your mindset and lead to a more fulfilling life.
Talking Points:
01:09 - The Importance of the B Decision
02:02 - Life's Unpredictability
03:06 - Conscious Choice of Emotions
04:10 - Balancing Professional and Personal Life
05:02 - Energy and Thoughts
05:45 - Trapped by External Changes
06:37 - Default Settings and Triggers
08:44 - Responding to Crisis
10:09 - Energy Shifts and Influence
11:56 - The Self-Image Pause
13:48 - Purposeful Emotional Choices
16:29 - Ripple Effect of Being
20:05 - Curiosity vs. Judgment
24:00 - Life Improvements Through Being
25:04 - Benefits of Calmness
25:36 - Calm, Cool, and Connected
Quotes:
"I asked myself, who do I want to be in this moment with nothing outside of me changing?"
"Your beingness is the energy, the predominant energy that you are embodying in any given moment."
"But you tell your brain, here's what we're doing. This is who we're being."
"I am becoming someone who takes immediate action."
"Every thought you think and every action that you take is a vote for who you want to be."
"I don't need the world to be different in order for me to be different. But when I be different, the world does change."
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | What if the most important decision you make today isn't about what to do, but who to be? |
| 0:08.3 | You see, in every situation, you are making a choice, often unconsciously, about your state of being. |
| 0:16.1 | And that choice is shaping your entire experience of life. |
| 0:20.2 | So today, we are going to explore the B decision, |
| 0:24.2 | a powerful shift that can transform how you show up in every moment, handle challenges, |
| 0:29.8 | and create results in your life. So let's dive in. |
| 0:35.5 | Welcome to the School of Self Image, where personal development meets style. |
| 0:40.6 | Here's your hostess Master Life Coach, Tanya Lee. |
| 0:47.0 | Good morning, my friends, or good afternoon, depending on when you are listening to this episode. |
| 0:53.8 | Today, we are talking about the most |
| 0:57.7 | important decision that you make on a daily basis, on an hourly basis, on a minute-by-minute |
| 1:07.4 | basis. And that is what I call the B decision. Asking yourself, who do I want to be right now? |
| 1:20.1 | I was inspired to do this episode for a couple of reasons. Number one, I am seeing a lot of suffering in the world. It seems like when I look |
| 1:31.5 | around me, I am seeing people full of anxiety, full of worry, full of frustration, and it is clear |
| 1:39.6 | to me that their states of being are a result of them wanting the world to be a certain way in order |
| 1:45.9 | for them to feel better. And that's just not how the world works. Things happen that maybe you don't |
| 1:53.6 | want to happen. And that is the nature of life. Life is not going to go your way 100% of the time. |
| 2:03.9 | And I was reminded of this recently because a couple of weeks ago, I was in New York City |
| 2:10.2 | getting ready for the final stop of the Soci Tour. |
| 2:15.8 | And before the event, I get a call from my mother. |
| 2:20.2 | She is crying. |
| 2:21.6 | And she tells me that my dad is not well. |
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