414 - The 90% Rule: How to Make Aligned Decisions and End Overwhelm

High Capacity – Nervous System Regulation, Stress Management, Burnout Recovery, Somatic Tools, Anxiety, Boundaries, Overwhelm

Michelle Grosser – Inspired by Mel Robbins, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and Dr. Becky Kennedy

Burnout, Overwhelm, Mindset, Work-life Balance, Education, Anxiety, Time Management, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting, Nervous System, Somatic Tools, Mental Health, Productivity, Emotional Regulation

4.9 • 538 Ratings

🗓️ 9 December 2025

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

You’re not overwhelmed because you’re doing too much — you’re overwhelmed because you’re committing to things that aren’t truly aligned. The 90% Rule is a deceptively simple framework that will help you stop overthinking, stop people-pleasing, and stop tolerating the 60–70% decisions that drain your bandwidth. When you learn to choose only what is deeply aligned — and release the rest — your entire life gets quieter, clearer, and more intentional. In this episode, I break down the neuro...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Alive and Well, the podcast for the new era of high achievers.
0:07.8	You're done burning out, and you're ready to lead, work, and live in a rhythm that honors
0:14.5	both your brilliance and your body. I'm your host, Michelle Grocer. I'm a trial attorney turned nervous system strategist,
0:23.4	and I've lived the burnout story. I know what it's like to chase your goals at the expense of
0:29.1	your well-being. And I also know it doesn't have to be that way. Here, we're redefining success. It's where productivity feels peaceful,
0:41.2	boundaries feel like freedom, and energy comes from within. Each week, I'll share practical
0:49.0	tools for nervous system regulation, time mastery, and somatic strategies so you can show up with clarity,
0:57.5	calm, and confidence in every part of your life. Because you, my friend, were given a spirit
1:05.1	of power, love, and a sound mind. So here's to life and living it fully. This is the path to feeling alive and
1:16.6	well. Let's dive in. Hey, it's Michelle here. Welcome to Alive and Well. Today, I want to have a
1:24.1	conversation with you about something that has been quietly changing everything for me for the last few months.
1:32.3	And I don't mean in that fluffy like, this is life-changing way that the internet loves to throw around.
1:37.1	But I mean it in the most literal, very practical sense.
1:41.8	And it's been this single framework that has kept me from leaking capacity
1:47.2	all over the place. It's kept me from slipping back into functional burnout. It's kept me focused on
1:53.5	what actually matters, especially in this particular season of my life. And it's so simple.
1:59.9	It's so deceptively simple that your brain is probably
2:04.7	going to want to dismiss it. But your nervous system is going to breathe a huge sigh of relief.
2:11.6	I am telling you when you start using this. So I read the book Essentialism by Greg McCown. And in that book, he talks
2:20.5	about this 90% rule. And I'm going to bring it to you guys with a nervous system twist. So we're
2:27.3	going to get nerdy with it. But I think it's be really helpful. So let's just going to start here
2:32.8	with the fact that overwhelm isn't actually a
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