#414: High-Functioning Codependents: How to Stop Being Everything for Everyone with Terri Cole

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Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 October 2024

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Ever wonder why some people who seem highly capable and successful still struggle with people-pleasing and relationship dynamics? This episode features a powerful conversation with psychotherapist Terri Cole where we unravel the hidden patterns of high-functioning codependency — a form of codependency that often goes unrecognized, especially in high-achievers. Drawing from her new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, Terri explains how behaviors like over-giving, fixing, and being overly invested in others' outcomes are often mistaken for love and care but can actually lead to burnout and resentment. We explore how to identify these patterns, shift out of autopilot advice giving, and build authentic connections through healthier boundaries. Packed with relatable insights and real life examples, this episode is a must listen for anyone seeking to reclaim their energy, set empowered boundaries, and transform their relationships. Dive in and discover how small shifts in behavior can lead to a more liberated and fulfilling life. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. —Terri’s Book: https://hfcbook.com/ —Terri’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ —Terri’s Website: https://www.terricole.com/ —Terri & Mark’s Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark Previous Podcast Episodes: —Redesigning Your Love Blueprint with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/redesigning-your-love-blueprint-with-terri-cole/ —Codependency, The Disease To Please with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/codependency-the-disease-to-please-with-terri-cole/ —Crushing Codependency Myths with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/terri-cole-crushing-codependency-myths/ —How To Become A Boundary Boss with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/how-to-become-a-boundary-boss-terri-cole/ Resources From Episode: —Melody Beattie’s Podcast Episode: Breaking Free from Codependency with Melody Beattie: https://markgroves.com/episode/breaking-free-from-codependency-with-melody-beattie/ —Terri & Mark’s Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: High-functioning Codependency, Terri Cole, Breaking Codependency, Self-Care and Boundaries, Emotional Burnout Recovery, Codependency in Relationships, Codependency vs Independence, People-Pleasing Habits, Setting Healthy Boundaries, Terri Cole Too Much Book, Relationship Dynamics, Emotional Health Podcast, Empowered Relationships, Overcoming Codependency, Personal Growth Strategies, Mental Health and Relationships, Healing Emotional Exhaustion, Psychology and Relationships, Self-Love and Self-Worth, Transforming Relationships This episode is sponsored by: —BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES —Qualia Life: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at https://qualialife.com/markgroves Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Rose podcast. Today I'm so excited because one of the best
0:06.7	teachers on the planet is here to rock us. And that's Terry Cole, psychotherapist, specialist
0:13.1	in the area of codependency. But here's the twist, because you might be like, that ain't me.
0:19.3	But if you are someone who crushes it at life, crushes it at work, you know, you got it together,
0:25.6	you got your poop in a group, but you're like, damn, relationships, I can't seem to bring my
0:30.5	wall down.
0:31.2	Damn, I keep trying to take care of everybody.
0:34.2	Damn, I just can't seem to figure it out.
0:40.3	She'll help us do that. She has a specialty in the area of codependency, but even more specifically high functioning codependency. She has a
0:46.8	recent book that just came out called Too Much. Go get a copy because you ain't too much.
0:52.6	And the book is going to walk you through it.
0:54.3	You're going to want to dive deeper.
0:55.8	And I promise you that because when you listen to this episode, make sure you stick to the
0:59.6	end because she got some tips on one, how do you know it's you or someone you know and
1:04.2	love and how the hell do we move through it?
1:07.4	So before we dive in the episode, make sure you hit subscribe on YouTube. Make sure you hit subscribe and the little notification bells so you don't make it. So before we dive in the episode, make sure you hit subscribe on YouTube. Make sure you
1:11.9	hit subscribe and the little notification bells so you don't miss any of these because damn,
1:17.6	you'd hate to miss something and change your life, change your relationships, and make it so
1:22.3	you don't have to repeat these patterns and choices and get all dizzy. And also when you hit
1:27.2	subscribe, it helps support the show and that makes get all dizzy. And also when you hit subscribe, it helps support the
1:28.7	show and that makes me bueno happy. And I don't want you to caretake my needs because that
1:33.5	would make you codependent. But if I could hook in there and just tap into that wound so you
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