#406: Why You Need to Embrace Small Talk

The Art of Manliness

Society & Culture, Education, Philosophy

4.7 • 14.5K Ratings

🗓️ 17 May 2018

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

If you’re like a lot of people, engaging in small talk can feel awkward and tedious. Consequently, you avoid it as much you can. But my guest today argues that if you want to get ahead both personally and professionally, you need to embrace these little exchanges. Her name is Debra Fine and she's the author of "The Fine Art of Small Talk." Today on the show, Debra explains why small talk is actually a big deal and isn’t just a waste of saliva. She then shares the biggest obstacles people have to engaging in small talk and the two mindset shifts you need to make to get over those obstacles. Debra and I then discuss specific tactics you can start using today to start conversations, keep them going, and end them gracefully. Lots of actionable advice that can immediately improve your day-to-day life, so take notes. Get the full show notes at aom.is/smalltalk.

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0:00.0	[♪ INTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪
0:13.9	Bremake here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast.
0:18.1	If you're like a lot of people engaging in small talk can feel awkward and tedious.
0:22.0	Consequently, you avoid it as much as you can.
0:24.2	My guests say argues that if you want to get ahead both personally and professionally,
0:27.2	you need to embrace these little exchanges.
0:29.2	My name is Deborah Fine and she's the author of the book, The Fine Art of Smalltalk.
0:32.7	And today on the show, Deborah explains why small talk is actually a big deal and isn't
0:36.2	just a waste of saliva.
0:37.4	She then shares the biggest obstacles people have in engaging in small talk and the two
0:40.9	mindset shifts you need to make to get over those obstacles.
0:43.7	Deborah and I then discuss specific tactics you can start using today to start conversations,
0:48.1	keep them going, and end them gracefully.
0:50.4	Lots of actionable advice that you can use immediately to improve your day-to-day life,
0:53.6	so take notes after the show's over, check out the show notes at www.aom.iaslashsmalltalk.com.
0:58.4	And just to quick heads up, Deborah works from home and her family just took in a little
1:01.3	dog name, Gizmo.
1:02.6	And Gizmo makes a bit of an appearance in the middle of the show, did her best to minimize
1:06.4	him, but he's there.
1:07.9	Just want to give you fair warning on it.
1:09.4	Doesn't last for very long.
1:12.4	Deborah Fine.
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