404. I want to do everything, so I do nothing
The Psychology of your 20s
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🗓️ 6 April 2026
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Why is it that we can have a million visions, dreams and goals for how we want our life to be, but we can't seem to execute any of them? Is it laziness? Lack of discipline? Or fear? In today's episode, we break down the analysis paralysis that comes with wanting to do everything, and instead doing nothing at all. Our discussion includes:
- The three types of fear keeping us stuck
- The most famous study on decision making!
- The psychology of regret
- How to choose what path to follow first
- Dealing with the judgement of others
And so much more! Happy listening!
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everybody, I'm Jemma Spike and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk through the biggest changes, moments and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology. |
| 0:26.7 | Hello everybody. |
| 0:28.2 | Welcome back to the show. |
| 0:29.7 | Welcome back to the podcast. |
| 0:34.8 | It is so great to have you here back for another episode as we, of course, |
| 0:38.7 | break down the psychology of our 20s and back for a very important episode at that. I want to do everything so I do nothing. This is our topic for today. |
| 0:47.9 | I have so many dreams for myself and my life, but I don't chase any of them. I hear this all the time from people in their 20s. |
| 0:57.4 | In fact, I think it is the biggest worry I hear from people during this decade. And it's also a major |
| 1:04.6 | root of so much to satisfaction, not just now, but in the future. Obviously, it doesn't always |
| 1:10.7 | sound like that, right? It doesn't always sound like somebody being like, I want to do everything, but I do nothing. It sounds like, I don't know which of these jobs to choose, so I'm just going to stay where I am. It sounds like, I don't know whether to stay or leave my relationship, so I guess I'll just stay. I don't know whether to honor my passions or my need for |
| 1:28.0 | stability, so I'll do neither. I don't know whether to travel or whether to save, so I won't do |
| 1:32.4 | either as well. All of it is the same. It all comes back to this core dilemma. Our expectations for |
| 1:38.8 | ourselves, our dreams, I guess, are so heavy that they often keep us pinned to one place, safe, but not |
| 1:49.3 | very happy. This conundrum is so interesting to me because it's not that you can't achieve what |
| 1:56.2 | you want if you set your mind to it. It's not that there is a lack of things that intrigue you or a lack of |
| 2:02.2 | opportunities or ambition. In fact, I normally find that people who get stuck in this situation |
| 2:07.8 | have an excess of ambition. Psychologically, it's about regret, right? And more than that, |
| 2:14.4 | it is about fear. It is very easy from the outside to look at someone who is |
| 2:20.6 | stagnant at this point in their life and to assume that they are just lazy, they lack discipline, |
| 2:26.5 | they lack motivation, they lack structure. I would say 80% of the time for people in this |
| 2:34.0 | situation, that's not their problem. |
| 2:36.9 | A lack of discipline is not the problem. |
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