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Delight Your Marriage

401-Purity Culture Had Side Effects Til Now. Lindsay's Transformation Story

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.7589 Ratings

🗓️ 22 September 2023

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

They saved themselves for marriage. (Yay!)

But there were other hurdles encountered as a result of a lack of insight around intimacy and God's wonderful design.

Hear how Lindsay got to the other side. Was it just flipping a switch and suddenly there's freedom? No.

It was a process.

It was a journey, and it took support and guidance.

I look forward to you hearing from someone who got there, and you can, too. 

For men: her husband went first. 

For women: she had to commit and realize it was important enough for her to get free. 

Love, 

Belah 

PS - Like Lindsay, if you want freedom in your intimacy but have hang-ups from purity culture, you can get on a free Clarity Call to be listened to and asked questions. Maybe our program is the right fit for you. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

If you're a husband who sees his wife "holding back" because of this, Lindsay's husband took the men's program first, so I also encourage you to get on a Clarity Call. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Program Graduate Quote: 

Before the program: "We had recurring arguments surrounding intimacy. I felt like [my husband's] love was conditional and he felt like I neglected his needs.

It was so discouraging. [My husband] felt lonely and I felt like a failure. The cycle would repeat every couple months, leaving both of us discouraged and hopeless that things could ever change… especially after 23 years of marriage. It impacted every relationship in our life, including our kids, work, in ministry, etc."

Same graduate after the program: "I am amazed at the peace and unity in our marriage. I no longer feel like sex is an obligation but something that I am really learning to enjoy! It's better than it has ever been. I have a hard time taking credit for it because [my husband] is killing it at implementing the principles from his 'Masculinity Reclaimed' program. I have never felt more known, safe or wholeheartedly cherished. It is easy to respond to a man who loves me like this. It is easy to be attracted to and vulnerable with a man who loves me like Jesus loves his church.

I have really grown in vulnerability, boldness and freedom in my sexuality, including discovering how sex can be so enjoyable for me.  And turns out, [my husband] LOVES when I enjoy it!  I am overcoming my physical insecurities and realizing that my body is a gift for my husband.  What a beautiful design and privilege that I can please, comfort and bless my husband in intimacy.  I want to continue being courageous to experience all God has for our marriage.

I see how my upbringing and the influence of culture have warped how I think and hindered me from experiencing marriage like God designed. I see how I desperately need God to renew my mind to see myself, marriage and sex the way He does.

This is the best marriage material we have ever come across. The Lord is using you in huge ways!"

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast.

0:05.0

You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy.

0:11.0

Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about.

0:17.0

Delight your marriage.

0:19.0

Hi there! So excited that you're joining you're Delight your marriage.

0:25.5

Hi there. So excited that you're joining me.

0:34.5

If you grew up in a way that taught you that sex is wrong, wrong, wrong before marriage,

0:43.6

and then sex is good in marriage, then there's, it's a little bit like a half truth. The thing is, the wrong type of sex is wrong, but sex in marriage is the right type of

0:51.4

sex. So that's right. However, when it's not, the nuances aren't clarified

1:00.0

because as parents, maybe your parents didn't know how to clarify it or maybe they didn't know

1:06.6

to clarify it or they didn't want to talk up sex and then you would do it before being married.

1:13.2

They may have, they or church or whoever, anyone, may have made it seem like sex was wrong in

1:22.7

entirety. And so this purity culture for men or women has really brought a lot of shame and a lack of freedom even after somebody is married.

1:36.8

So how do you uproot that? How do you change that? How does that become, you know, something that a wife doesn't feel ashamed of enjoying intimacy

1:47.5

and she doesn't feel like it's dirty or wrong to have pleasure and to pursue it and for fierceness

1:56.5

and all these things?

1:58.3

It's interesting because the Bible is clear about the boundaries of sex

2:03.0

to letyourmarriage.com slash boundaries. You can download a free PDF that goes through the

2:09.3

specific verses. There are boundaries. But I want to invite you to consider that we don't need to add to the Bible.

2:21.5

Right?

2:22.2

That's actually what the Pharisees were doing.

2:24.8

The Pharisees not only were taking the laws that God gave,

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