4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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🗓️ 2 August 2024
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
What’s blocking you?
What’s holding you back?
Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.
Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Recognize Self-Sabotage
How to Stop Putting Yourself Down
How to Change Negative Self-Talk
How to Understand Your Triggers
How to Set Boundaries
By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?
05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior
08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves
11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?
14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness
16:22 #2: Procrastination
19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down
23:15 #4: Perfectionism
27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior
28:53 weird noise in the background
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