Today we're talking about conflict, and I'll tell you about a fight that I had with Amy recently.

We got going.

And in the middle of the fight, Amy approached me slowly, crawling on her hands and knees and said, get out from under that bed, you coward and fight like a man.

Now, that didn't really happen. That was a joke, and I am joking about that story, but I'm not

joking about the fact that Amy's got game. When a fight goes on, don't let that sweet,

little cute face fool you. We all know who the tough one is in the family, and it's not

Pastor Craig. She can hold her own. Of course, I'm joking about that, but we do fight, believe

or not, like normal people. When you become a pastor, you're a normal people. That's a pastor. And so we do fight. In fact, raise your hands if you've ever gotten in a fight with someone you love, anybody, your boyfriend, girlfriend, roommate, raise them up, leave them up, leave them up. Now, put him down, put him back up if he got in a fight

over something really dumb, really dumb. God bless you. I see those hands. You can be saved too,

right? You're not alone. Everybody fights. All couples fight. The question isn't whether you

fight or not. The question really is, how do you fight when you have conflict? There's a difference

between healthy couples and unhealthy couples in the way they work through things. Healthy

couples fight clean and unhealthy couples, you've probably seen it before, not in your relationship,

but you've maybe seen it on TV, they fight dirty. Healthy couples work toward resolution, but unhealthy couples tend to press for victory.

And there is a problem, although that may feel right, but when you press for victory

in marriage, it is not good.

And the reason it's not good is because whenever one spouse wins, both lose.

The moment you try to win and you think you do, you're actually hurting your marriage if one of you loses.

And Paul knew this, and that's the very reason why he said, and for other reasons, he said this in Ephesians 426, he said,

in your anger, do not sin.

He didn't say you're not going to be angry, but when you do get angry because you're human, in your anger, do not sin.

Then he said, do not let the sun go down while you're still angry.

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