4 Phases of Love We Go Through in Our Lifetime & How to Attract the Love and Relationships You Desire

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Health & Fitness, Business, Mental Health

4.8 • 28.5K Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2023

⏱️ 74 minutes

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Summary

Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about the definition of love.

Rule #3: Define Love Before You Think It, Feel It, Or Say It - in this chapter we break down the different phases of love and dating, the pitfalls that often lead to breakups, and the steps we can take to be more present in the relationship and form deep connections with the other person.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Intro
03:02 Rule #3: Define love before you think it, feel it, or say it
09:39 The Four Phases of Love - We rarely elaborate when we tell other people we love them
14:03 Phase 1 - Attraction - In phase one, we feel a spark of intrigue, interest and attraction
20:14 The Three Date Rule - Three dates usually provide enough time to determine compatibility
31:35 Phase 2 - Dreams - We strive to dismantle false expectations and focus on realistic expectations
32:11 False Expectations - We often have a checklist of the qualities our partners should have
35:52 Rhythms and Routines - Instead of chasing the dream of what might be, spend time to get to know the other person
43:31 Phase 3 - Struggle and Growth - Confronting differences and disappointments and putting in the effort to resolve them
48:18 Phase 4 - Trust - The growth that you go through together builds into trust

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1:06.0	Bringing awareness to your relationship is uncomfortable.
1:09.6	We expect love to flow naturally, but this is extremely rare,
1:14.1	and often it means that we're not taking on the tougher issues.
1:17.6	We need to make mistakes, identify what we need to change, and work on doing better.
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