4 kinds of regret -- and what they teach you about yourself | Daniel H. Pink

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🗓️ 24 May 2022

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Regret is one of our most powerful emotions -- and also one of the most misunderstood. Over the past two years, author Daniel H. Pink has collected a trove of more than 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries in an effort to better understand this mysterious emotion. He shares the key patterns that emerged (it all boils down to the same four core regrets, he says) and explains how to transform your own regrets in order to create the life you've always wanted to live. This talk and conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of an exclusive TED Membership event. Hear more from our host Shoshana at the end of the episode on what regret can teach us -- and when it's time to let it go.

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0:00.0	Ted Audio Collective
0:08.0	Welcome to Ted Health.
0:09.0	I'm Dr. Shoshana Ungerleiter.
0:11.0	Today, we have a talk by author Daniel Pink, who spent years collecting stories from thousands
0:17.6	of people about what they regret and what that means about the human experience.
0:23.3	Then after the talk, I share some of the science around what regret can teach us and when
0:28.0	to just let it go.
0:31.4	Let's talk about regret.
0:33.8	It is, to my mind, our most misunderstood emotion, and so I decided to spend a couple
0:39.4	of years studying it.
0:41.4	And one of the things that I did is I went back and I looked at about 50 years of social
0:45.4	science on regret.
0:46.6	And here's what it tells you.
0:47.6	I'll save you the trouble of reading a half century of social science.
0:51.0	The research tells us that everybody has regrets.
0:54.2	Regrets make us human.
0:55.3	The only people without regrets are five-year-olds.
0:59.7	People with brain damage and sociopaths.
1:02.1	The rest of us, we have regrets.
1:04.1	And if we treat our regrets right, and that's a big if, but they're ways to do it, regrets
1:08.4	can actually make us better.
1:09.9	They can improve our decision-making skills, improve our negotiation skills, make us better
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