4.14: Listen to This Before Your Holiday Dinner

First Name Basis Podcast

Jasmine Bradshaw

How To, Parenting, Education, Kids & Family

5 • 629 Ratings

🗓️ 23 November 2021

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

The holiday season can be a beautiful time of celebration, but if we’re being honest, it can also be extremely stressful — especially when it comes to spending time with family members you disagree with.

I get asked all the time questions like “What should I do about family members who say things that uphold white supremacy?” or “What should I do when family members say racist things?”

My dear friend Jalynne Geddes gave me some advice about how to approach these situations that entirely changed my perspective, and I want to share that advice with you, too: If you can’t change their heart, your presence might change their behavior.

In this episode, I unpack that advice as well as discuss:

What you can do in these situations if you are BIPOC.
What you should do if you hold white privilege or have close proximity to white privilege.
Suggestions for keeping yourself safe and maintaining boundaries.

I hope this holiday season can be a joyful time for you and your family, as well as one where you can feel safe. Thanks for being part of the First Name Basis fam. We’re sending you our love.

Want to help your kids center Indigenous Peoples this Thanksgiving?

Thanksgiving is coming up, and it's our chance to teach our kids the true history of Thanksgiving. Visit firstnamebasis.org/thanksgivingresources and drop your email to get some ideas of how to center Indigenous Peoples sent straight to your inbox.

Articles, Studies & Podcasts Referenced In The Episode

First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 14: “What Is Privilege And What Do I Do With It?”

First Name Basis Podcast, Season 4, Episode 8: “Can We Talk About White Privilege?”

First Name Basis Podcast, Season 3, Episode 9: “Racism 101”

First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 22: “Cancel Culture Pt. 1: Calling Out, Calling In, & Tone Policing”

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0:00.0	You're listening to the First Name Basis podcast, Season 4, Episode 14. Listen to this before your holiday dinner.
0:15.5	Teaching our children to be inclusive and anti-racist starts with us within the sacred walls of our home.
0:23.6	First-name basis is designed to empower you with the confidence you need to be a leader in
0:28.4	your family and a change maker in your community. Together, we will wrestle with hard questions
0:34.1	and use the answers to create the world we want, a world that reflects our values
0:39.5	of inclusion, compassion, and courage. I'm your host, Jasmine Bradshaw, and I am so excited
0:47.1	to be on this journey with you. Hello, First Name Basis fam. I am so glad you are here. I have to tell you that I've had a little bit of a cold this week,
0:59.7	so you might hear it in my voice, but I'm really grateful to you for sticking with me and my cold voice
1:05.3	because I have some really important things to share with you today. So it is Thanksgiving week and I feel like really the
1:13.8	holiday season is in full swing and I've been thinking a lot about how I am going to a lot of
1:22.3	holiday dinners and I'm sure you are too. So I thought we needed an episode to kind of buoy us up and prepare us for
1:29.2	those holiday dinners. But before we jump in, I have to tell you, because it is Thanksgiving
1:34.9	week, I want to get some resources into your hands. So last week on the podcast, we did an episode
1:40.4	called How to Center Indigenous Peoples on Thanksgiving. And with that in mind,
1:45.4	my team and I went looking for resources for your family. And these can be used in your classroom
1:51.3	if you're a teacher, but specifically for your family so that you can center indigenous peoples
1:56.1	during this Thanksgiving season. And we already sent it out to everyone who is on our fam favorites email list.
2:03.7	But if you want the resources or are not on the list yet, you can go to first namebases.org
2:08.8	slash Thanksgiving resources. Just type in your email address and your name and the resources
2:14.7	will be sent right to your inbox. So that's first namebasis.org slash
2:18.3	Thanksgiving resources. And the amazing thing about these resources is that we are able to find
2:23.5	something in every single category. So we found some things for you to watch, some things for you
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