3997: Sneaky Satisfaction of Complaining by Ellen Burgan of If It Brings You Joy on Breaking Complaint Habits

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🗓️ 29 April 2026

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3997: Ellen Burgan unpacks why complaining feels so satisfying in the moment, offering validation, connection, and even a false sense of motivation, while quietly keeping us stuck and drained. She shares practical ways to break the cycle, from building awareness to shifting into gratitude, venting productively, and journaling. These simple shifts can help you move from problem-focused thinking to a more empowered, solution-oriented mindset. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://ifitbringsyoujoy.com/how-to-stop-complaining/ Quotes to ponder: "Complaining keeps us stuck in the problem rather than finding a solution." "Complaining drains our energy. It keeps a stressful, undesired situation very alive in our thoughts." "Awareness is key. If you’re not aware that you’re complaining (silently or out loud), then you can’t do anything about it." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	When was the last time you stopped and listened to your body?
0:03.4	Here's a Holland and Barrett ad break to do just that.
0:06.9	Go on. Have a listen to your gut.
0:10.4	Is that a gurgle?
0:12.4	A rumble?
0:14.1	Is it straining after lunch?
0:16.7	Or is it saying...
0:18.4	You've got to show me love.
0:27.9	We know what your body's asking for in store online on the app back your body holland and barrett this is optimal living daily sneaky satisfaction of complaining and how to calm the habit
0:36.6	by ellen bergen of if It Brings You Joy.com
0:39.5	and I'm Justin Mollick. We're going to get right to it today and start optimizing your life.
0:48.6	Sneaky satisfaction of complaining and how to calm the habit by Ellen Bergen of If It Brings You Joy.com
0:55.5	At one time or another, we've all been in a complaining session. Sometimes it just feels good
1:02.5	to let off steam and complain with others who feel the same way. And as each person throws more
1:07.9	on the complaint pile, we feel more and more justified in how we feel
1:11.9	slighted, frustrated, and even like a victim. Why do people complain? Complaining is a fairly
1:19.5	common thing to do, so what makes complaining so enticing? A group complaining session can give
1:25.5	us a sense of community and make us feel more connected to
1:28.4	others with our similar gripes. Complaining can make us feel justified in how we feel. The more we
1:34.6	complain and the more others agree, the more we feel validated about our opinions of the situation.
1:41.1	And complaining can provide motivation. If I silently complain to myself about how overweight I am,
1:47.7	it can motivate me to go to the gym. Unfortunately, those benefits are very short-lived and often
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