#397 - After Divorce: The Gift of Regret
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 15 April 2024
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
If you've lived through a divorce, or you're going through one now, you know that ending a marriage comes with a lot of regrets.
You might regret not trying harder to save your marriage when you had the chance, or, if the divorce was your choice, you might have difficult moments when you regret your decision. You might even regret marrying your Ex in the first place!
Whatever flavor of divorce regret you're experiencing, this episode is for you. I'm talking about how you can not only cope with regret after divorce, but how you can use it to start a positive new chapter in your life.
You'll learn:
- 03:04 The Purpose of Regret in Healing after a Breakup or Divorce
- 10:10 Regret's and Its Relationship to Grief
- 11:07 Shifting Your Perspective on Mistakes and Regret
- 12:21 Learning from Regret to Build Healthier Relationships
- 13:47 Differentiating Healthy Regret from Shame
- 16:43 Exploring Regret through Journaling and Therapy
- 22:19 Creating a Constructive Narrative that Helps You Grow
- 24:04 Using Regret as a Catalyst for Change
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you've been through a divorce, I'll bet that you are no stranger to regret. You might look back |
| 0:07.3 | and wish you'd handle things differently or got in a couple's counseling sooner or just |
| 0:12.3 | worked harder to fix it while you still had the chance, right? You might even regret your |
| 0:19.2 | decision to marry your ex in the first place. I mean, |
| 0:22.2 | there could be all kinds of regrets that go along with the divorce experience, but whatever |
| 0:28.1 | the flavor, it's invariable that they'll be there. And that's why today on this episode, |
| 0:34.1 | we are exploring the many facets of divorce regret and how you can use your regrets |
| 0:42.6 | intentionally and productively in order to build a better future. I'm so glad you're here. Today we're listening to the band The Heaters. |
| 1:00.7 | The song is Memorial, which I thought would set an appropriate tone for our conversation today |
| 1:07.4 | about coping with regrets after divorce. |
| 1:10.8 | Learn more about The Heaters on their bandcamp page, |
| 1:13.6 | heaters.bantcamp.com. |
| 1:15.9 | If this is your first time listening, welcome. |
| 1:18.9 | I'm Dr. Lisa Marie-Bobby. |
| 1:20.5 | I'm a marriage and family therapist. |
| 1:22.3 | I'm a licensed psychologist, et cetera, et cetera. |
| 1:24.6 | And I am also an accidental breakup and divorce recovery expert. |
| 1:31.8 | I, you know, really my profession, I'm a marriage counselor and love doing marriage counseling, |
| 1:36.8 | helping people repair their relationships. And as we all know, sometimes marriages can't be saved. |
| 1:43.8 | Some marriages shouldn't be saved. And so, |
| 1:47.0 | you know, through those years of experience, it was not uncommon that sometimes marriage counseling |
| 1:52.6 | ends with me sitting in the therapy office with one person on the couch. And now my, |
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