396: What if you were held captive by child soldiers?
This Is Actually Happening
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🗓️ 3 March 2026
⏱️ 72 minutes
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Summary
When a family sailing journey ends in capture by child soldiers during Mozambique’s civil war, a man must protect his children while confronting the unsettling truth that his captors are both perpetrators of violence and children shaped by it.
Today’s episode featured Dave Muller. Dave has written about his experiences in a book entitled, “Not Child’s Play”, available where books are sold or at https://notchildsplay.co.uk/
You can email Dave at dave.muller@notchildsplay.co.za
Dave is on Instagram @davenotchildsplay, on Facebook @Dave Muller and on YouTube @DaveMuller-NotChildsPlay
In the 1960s and 1970s, both South Africa and Mozambique were part of the larger decolonization of Africa, with South Africa gaining full independence from Britain in 1961 and Mozambique gaining independence from Portugal in 1975. However, in the decolonization process, both were thrown into proxy battles, between old structures clinging to power and the larger global cold war between communist and capitalist superpowers. South Africa, even after independence, was still ruled by a white minority government, under the National Party. The National Party was populated mostly by the white ethnic group known as Afrikaners who spoke a language called Afrikaans. The National Party instituted apartheid, a brutally oppressive system of institutionalized racial segregation and white supremacy enforced in South Africa from 1948 to the early 1990s. South Africa shares a northeastern border with Mozambique. When Mozambique gained independence in 1975, they were ruled by the Communist party known as FRELIMO. FRELIMO became a major force opposing apartheid in neighboring South Africa. The South African apartheid government, in response to FRELIMO’s opposition, actively destabilized Mozambique from the inside by propping up a rebel group known as RENAMO. This led to a violent 15-year civil war in Mozambique, between the ruling, communist-backed FRELIMO party and the South African-backed RENAMO rebel group.
In the first part of today's episode, you'll hear our storyteller speak about growing up in South Africa during apartheid as a white man, but he was not an Afrikaner, and grew up in a family that was opposed to apartheid. The second part of the story takes place in Mozambique, where he and his family are held by the RENAMO rebel group and caught in the chaos and fighting between FRELIMO and RENAMO, the two warring factions in the civil war there.
Of course there is much more to say about all of this, and Dave will speak to some of these issues as he experienced them. I encourage you all to read more about the brutal and complex history of decolonization and apartheid in Africa.
And one final note, you’ll hear Dave talking about “Arwen” several times. In case it isn’t clear right away, he is referring to his boat that he built.
Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz
Content/Trigger Warnings: War and armed conflict, Child soldiers, Kidnapping / hostage situation, Graphic violence, Murder (including stabbing / bayoneting), Violence against the elderly, Exposure to blood, Threats of execution, Weapons (guns, rockets, mortar fire), Terrorism / militant groups, Civil war, Psychological trauma, PTSD, Panic attacks / emotional breakdown, Spiritual distress, Political violence, Forced recruitment of children, Coercion and intimidation, explicit language
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| 0:00.0 | Audible subscribers can listen to all episodes of This Is Actually Happening, |
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| 0:09.4 | This Is Actually Happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
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| 0:17.0 | and for more information about support services. |
| 0:20.2 | Hi listeners. Today's episode requires a little background and context. |
| 0:24.6 | The first part of the story takes place in South Africa during apartheid in the 1950s through the 1970s, |
| 0:30.6 | and most of the second half of the story takes place in Mozambique, in the 1980s, which was at the time in the midst of a civil war. |
| 0:38.7 | So I'd like to spend a few minutes here giving a very rough overview of the context of South Africa |
| 0:43.4 | and Mozambique at the time, so it will be more clear what Dave our storyteller is referring to. |
| 0:48.7 | In the 1960s and 1970s, both South Africa and Mozambique were part of the larger decolonization of Africa, |
| 0:55.4 | with South Africa gaining full independence from Britain in 1961, and Mozambique gaining independence |
| 1:00.7 | from Portugal in 1975. However, in the decolonization process, both were thrown into proxy battles |
| 1:07.6 | between old structures clinging to power and the larger global Cold War |
| 1:11.5 | between communist and capitalist superpowers. South Africa, even after independence, was still |
| 1:17.0 | ruled by a white minority government under the National Party. The National Party was populated |
| 1:22.1 | mostly by the white ethnic group known as Afrikaners, who spoke a language called Afrikaans. The National Party |
| 1:28.7 | instituted apartheid, a brutally oppressive system of institutionalized racial segregation and |
| 1:34.1 | white supremacy enforced in South Africa from 1948 to the early 1990s. South Africa shares |
| 1:41.0 | a northeastern border with Mozambique. When Mozambique gained independence in 1975, they were ruled by the Communist Party known as Frelemo. |
| 1:50.8 | Frelimo became a major force opposing apartheid in neighboring South Africa. |
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