This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. At self-work we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them.

Whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment.

Eight years ago I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you

who might already be knowledgeable about mental health treatment but also to those

of you who might say you'd never jarken the door of a therapist.

And yet you are here.

I'll answer your questions.

While I invite you to take a few minutes

for your own self-work.

But too many of us, our guilt very easily turned into shame. Now what's the difference? guilt is about an act or a lack of an act. Shame says you're a bad person because you did that or didn't do that.

Shame makes you bad and that can grow and grow and become the real problem because shame is

paralyzing.

Welcome to this week's edition of Self-Works.

I recently heard myself say something so irrational

that I had to stop and start laughing at myself.

What was it?

I'd accepted an offer to do something and I just quickly said to my husband,

oh it would look good on my resume. I have a book at TEDX, this

podcast, I'm working on another book and I'm 70 years old or almost. I'm no

longer working on my resume that was ridiculous but you can hear that

underlying sense of needing to achieve to have a record of some sort of

achievement what as if I was still actively building my career.

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