The media has been lying to you.  They have been telling you to take bubble baths and drink copious amounts of wine and get manis & pedis all under the guise of self-care.  While indulgent self-care is awesome and important, self-care is about much more than the infrequent pedicure. And sometimes the habits we label self-care are more of an escape that fills a void than a tool that serves us (read: copious amounts of wine.) The self-care you actually need is habits and routines that preserve your energy, promote excellent physical and mental health, and provide restoration from the hard days and long nights of motherhood. This kind of self-care looks like going to bed earlier, maintaining an exercise routine, taking time for yourself before your family rises, going to therapy, practicing meditation, being conscientious of your wine and sugar intake.  This kind of self-care requires discipline.  I know it’s not sexy and sometimes it’s not fun.  Sometimes it actually feels like work, which feels unfair. But the results and the rewards will improve your physical and mental health, help you sustain your energy all day #everydamnday, and restore a sense of harmony that you didn’t think could exist - all of which is to say that your disciplined self-care might bring actual magic into your life. Listen in to learn: 9 ways you’re doing self-care wrong 8 ways to mindset upgrade around your self care Simple self-care upgrades that will dramatically improve your quality of life The difference between self-care as a discipline vs self-care as an indulgence (and why you need BOTH!) Links mentioned: Grab your discounted Shameless Mom Con tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 30% off your first order, go to mylola.com and use the code SHAMELESS30 when you subscribe. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices