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Aloha, welcome back to the Anxiety Coaches Podcast.

In today's episode, I wanted to talk about the idea of embracing uncertainty.

It sounds like something that you wouldn't want to do,

but I want to

embrace uncertainty is key in being able to

understand your anxiety panic but to actually be able to let go. When I always

talk about letting go one of the things that comes up is people are wanting to hold on. And why do we want to hold on? We want to

hold on because we think we are in control if we hold on. I ran across an article by Christine Carter last month and I will put her link in the show notes and I wanted to share some bits and

pieces of it with you because she outlined some interesting ideas about, she wasn't talking specifically about anxiety,

but it is definitely what is going on here.

One of the things she brought up in the beginning was the feeling of having

that inner turbulence she called it and looking for outer control. So she said here, the more turbulent I am inside, the more I try to control what's happening outside. Some people look away when chaos rains. I dig in. I boss people around. I am

aggressive about what I think is right. Feeling like I am right, like I know what to do delivers a hit of certainty in a world of unending and

catastrophic natural disasters.

So I just want you to take a moment here and reflect on the times when you are dealing with people in your life, your relationships, and the times that you may be

bossing people around, the times that you might be insisting on having your way.

And I want to reassure you that what's happening is not that you are

out of control or trying, you know, just desperately trying to have your way. You are

looking for control. You are looking for a place to be safe. Christine goes on to say later in the article

every time I try to control anything

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